Telling a girl that you like her is something that the most macho of men fear. Of course, emotions can take over your logic & your actions as well. No matter what, you must be prepared mentally before you do anything at all.
Why not we start with some ways that totally will not work! Email, instant messenger, phone, letters, teddy bears, etc, these will not work. In this special case, you are about to express an important message to the woman you like, you must tell her face to face.
Never even attempt to ask her if she likes you! That is still not the worse thing you can ask. There was a friend of mine who asked a girl if he could kiss her! That really cracked me up! Can you imagine that?....
Now, put yourself in a woman's shoes, if you ask such dumb questions, how can she answer you? If she says yes to you, she will appear too cheap but if she really does like you & does not want to reject you, how is she supposed to tell you?
This is usually followed by the sound of silence..... An awkward silence between a man & a woman is what you do not want to experience for yourself.
It is no secret that women are attracted by the confidence of a man. Confidence only shows that a man is totally secure with himself which is really attractive to a woman. Those questions above will only make you look pathetic in front of her.
Do not ask too much or say too much, just bring your relationship to the next level, she will flow with you, if she likes you too.
Now for the most important part, how to tell her.....
- Your delivery method, the way you communicate with her, is even be more important than what you are about to tell her, especially in this special case.
- You must be at least 70% sure that she is also likes you before you tell her, you must tell her at the right time.
- Ambience is very important, especially to women, make sure it is a nice, romantic place.
Whatever happens next, just remember it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
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Telling A Girl You Like Her - Ways To Tell A Girl You Like Her
This week I want to talk about compliments. You should always make it a point to dish out compliments when you're with a woman. They must be sincere and expressed like you mean it.
There are taboo compliments you must never use when you are on a first date or just getting to know a woman. Don't use any sexual compliments such as:
You sure have a nice booty.
You sure have beautiful boobs.
You sure have a sexy body.
You sure have a nice long sexy tongue.
Are your boobs your own? They sure look real......
I'm sure you get the point. These suggestive compliments will only offend her.
Let me let you in on a secret that will help you win with single women in the romance department. The secret is using the following compliment on women that you're with: Just simply tell her, "You have the prettiest eyes I've ever seen." Women love to be complimented on their eyes. Just be sure to say it like you mean it and look at her squarely in the eyes with a smile on your face when you say it.
Follow my advice guys. From now on be sure and compliment women on their eyes first instead of her body parts, personality, sense of humor, or intelligence. You will make a much more favorable impression on her by complimenting her eyes. You could also compliments their lips or even their eyebrows, etc. I personally like to compliments a woman's feet.
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I think if you are confident, skillful, articulate, have sufficient courage, and are armed with the right techniques then it is not that difficult to approach or pick up a girl.
There are several things you need to take into consideration.
Be positive:
Women do not like men who are pessimists and have a negative approach to life. Actually nobody like people like that. Hence, it is necessary to have a positive attitude and show it when it comes to picking up a girl.
Smile:
"A smile increases your face value", and surprisingly it costs nothing. Therefore, especially while approaching any girl, smile constantly.
Utilize What You Have:
Most men dwell on what they don't possess. They feel that they don't have the charm and seductive attraction some guys have. Sometimes they regret that they don't have a nice body.
But haven't you seen many men who are good looking but don't have any girl. Be confident and try to capitalize on the assets that you have!
Make Her Laugh:
Making your woman laugh will do the trick. Laughter attracts women easily and in less time. If you are successful in making her laugh a lot, you have already won the battle.......
Don't Fear Rejection:
Most men remain unsuccessful in the task of picking up a girl because they fear rejection. The fear of rejection is the main cause behind the failure.
Take every rejection as the next step to success and learn from your mistakes.
Every time you get rejected, you are moving one level up, because once you become comfortable with girls saying no, your fear of rejection will be gone. So instead of getting hurt, be confident after every rejection. Remember, the guys who get rejected the most are the ones who leave with the most numbers!
Be A Good Listener:
It always pays to be a good listener. Observe the things she is saying as well as your surroundings. Stop worrying about what to say next and focus your attention on listening.
During the conversation, always make a direct eye contact with her. Believe me she will give you leads about what she would like to talk about, in essence, telling you want to say next.
Increase A Women's Interest:
If a woman is interested in carrying on a conversation with you or meeting with you, you have actually won half the battle.
You must concentrate on indulging in a conversation she would be interested in. Never fake it. Try to speak about a general topic, a situation or try to listen to her opinions on something really interesting.
Gain Respect:
Remember that a woman would never like to sleep with a man she does not respect. It is necessary to gain respect by showing respect to a woman and making her realize that you genuinely like her company.
Get Her Phone Number:
Getting the phone number or contact details of a girl is important when it comes to picking her up. Now this is a difficult and time-consuming task. You must work hard in order to be successful in your goal.
Use Good Pick Up Lines:
When picking up a girl, you can never go wrong with a great pick up line. The best way to start a conversation with a woman is to say "hi". This is the best opening line.
Now, once she responds, try to proceed further. For example, if you are at a music concert, a theater or a sports arena. You can continue the conversation by saying
- "How do you like the band?"
- "Awesome performance, do you like it?"
- "Great movie, isn't it?"
Now, if a woman is near you, you need to try out the famous 'goodbye introduction'. You can start with "Hi, I am just leaving. But before I do, I would like to introduce myself to the most wonderful woman around". And then see the result.
Perhaps it could become one of the best pick up lines. There are bright chances that she would show some interest (that otherwise was not possible) and you will get introduced to each other. Before leaving you can ask, "Nice talking to you. I'd like to talk to you again, is there a number I can reach you at?"
Believe me guys this always works and brings much better results. There is hardly any girl that would say "no", because you are giving her a chance and just asking her number to reach at. So use this technique to pick up any girl of your choice, and see the result.
Why? Because here her left-brain starts working and she would be under some hypnotic mode where she can't afford to say "no" because that will mean there is not a number that she can be reached at.
Moreover, it also makes you more original than every other idiot that asks for her number directly.
No doubt, the question how to pick up a girl seems to be difficult and it really is. However, you can simplify it by utilizing the powers you have, and following the tips and techniques mentioned above. All the best!Author: Alexander Faust is regular guy who's passion is women. Visit his web site http://www.seduce-a-woman.com and learn how to pick up girls, seduction tips and techniques.
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“You know, it's dangerous for you to be here in the frozen food section. You could melt all this stuff.” --Steve Martin in “My Blue Heaven”
Funny thing about today’s topic. The concept is one of the oldest, most overwrought stereotypes in the dating world. Yet, how many people (other than Vinnie) do you know who actually have met someone at the grocery store? Have you?
Would you like to?
As promised, today we’re going to talk all about how to turn the local supermarket into your dating playground…or at least potentially.
And it’s easier than you think.
No, this isn’t necessarily about “bumping carts” with someone “by accident”. Rest assured there are much better strategies in store than that (pun intended). So, then, let’s get on with it!
1) Inline Flirting
This is the simplest concept, yet completely overlooked by so many. Basically, if you want to meet someone, form your checkout plan with some strategy, will you? Simply get in line behind someone you want to meet, pick up the tabloid in front of you and make conversation about it. For some odd reason, this is like magic when performed by a guy. Women seem to be entranced by that sort of thing, and to have a guy actually start a conversation about it really is irresistible to a woman. And don’t completely rule out flirting with the one who is behind the register, either. One of life’s joys for me is when a woman at a cash register asks me for my credit card or (God help her) my phone number. Whichever it is, it’s “way too soon in the relationship for that” or “I don’t know you well enough”. Believe it or not, my fiancée Emily still deals with this sort of banter out of me regularly…and still giggles when it happens.
2) Have You Tried This?
Step One: Position yourself considering the same shelf full of items as someone you want to meet.
Step Two: Find a particularly interesting product.
Step Three: Ask, “Have you tried this?”
Step four: Expect a one-word answer.
Step Five: Respond by briefly describing some creative use you might have for it.
Step Six: Continue conversation with intrigued new friend.
Step Seven: Etc…
3) Veggie Tales
This is really a variation on the second bullet point above, but I want to make sure everyone understands how virtually foolproof it is to start a conversation. Hit the produce section. Find someone you want to meet. Ask either: 1) “What’s the best way to pick one of these?” or 2) “Do you have any secrets for cooking these?” People love being asked for expert advice. Men love doing so because, well, we’re men, and women will find it endearing that a guy is interested in cooking. Don’t act helpless here guys, just interested.
4) Bean Stalk
This one is my personal favorite, and the true “secret” of this article. At a grocery store you have a perfect scenario for meeting someone that is built in by design. Everyone goes up one aisle and down the other when they are there on serious business. If you notice someone you would like to meet is doing a week’s worth of shopping like you are, simply (and this is about as simple as it gets) start at the opposite end of the aisle as they are, but work the aisles in the same order. In doing so, you will pass this person every single time you go to the next aisle. Hopefully you get what I’m talking about here without me having to draw a diagram, because I’m lousy at that. Maybe you’ll completely ignore the person on the first aisle. On the second aisle, possibly some eye contact and a smile. On the third aisle (exactly), stop and say, “Look, I barely know you and you are already stalking me.” Another perfectly good option is to ask, “So are you going to follow me around all day or are you going to introduce yourself?” Be sure to laugh (or at least smile) after you say this so as to make it perfectly clear you are kidding. Either way, playing upon the fact that the other person is already interested in you is almost always effective. From there, make a friend.
5) Timing
I would plan my supermarket ventures in the early evening (after work) or on a Saturday in the late morning to early afternoon time frame. Consider the demographics involved and it’s easy to understand how the ratios of single people are going to be better then. This isn’t to say that it’s impossible to meet people during the day on Tuesday, but the odds aren’t quite as good.
If you are a “night person”, try shopping at 2 am if you have a 24-hour supermarket. You might meet your soulmate. He or she is probably stocking shelves.
Here’s a quick note regarding what not to do. Ever notice that you don’t seem to get the choice of “paper or plastic” anymore? Just because all the bags are “plastic” doesn’t mean YOU have to be. One of the major scenarios to avoid is trying to be too, um…”overly helpful”. Guys please don’t chase women around the parking lot offering to “load their groceries” or even to return their cart for them. You might as well pour the milk you just bought onto some toast and contemplate how that relates to this situation.
That said, starting conversation at the supermarket really is incredibly easy. Once you try it, you’ll wonder what took you so long. All too often we limit ourselves by thinking that bars, clubs and other “designated” places are the only “appropriate” venues for meeting someone. The truth is you are more likely to meet a high quality human being and have a great conversation with him or her when you both are in your “natural habitat” and free of loud noises and obnoxious distractions (e.g. a hundred other people trying to “pick up” someone).
An informal poll I’ve taken suggests that most single adults would truly enjoy being approached with interest at the grocery store or similar shopping situation. So, how about giving it a try this week?
By all means, send me your “success stories”.Author: Want to hear more? Scot McKay is a dating coach in San Antonio, TX and founder of X & Y Communications, a one-stop-shop for dating resources. He is the author of the books “Deserve What You Want” and “Cook For Your Date”, and hosts the popular podcast series “X & Y On The Fly” with his fiancée Emily. He may be reached at scot at xandycommunications.net . Visit http://www.dating-advice.us/ or http://www.datetoorder.com/ for more info and a free gift. The podcast series is available free of charge at http://feeds.feedburner.com/xyonthefly.
How To Meet Someone At The Grocery Store
It is an experience that most people would remember: their first French kiss. Some people would say it was a great experience while some would prefer not to mention it. But, we all know that French kissing is a very delicate and sensual experience.
Research has said that women's lips are one of their erogenous zone, so it's important for men to leave a lasting impression with women. And if you French kiss her like no one else, you'll most likely to kiss something else of her next.
The skill of kissing does not simply consist of knowing how to move your tongue inside a woman's mouth without hitting her tonsils. It involves the entire mouth - the lips, tongue, teeth, and the rest of the body.
Here are some basics:......
1) Give the lady a hand.
Position your hands on her body while kissing her. Hold her face firmly but gently as you slip your tongue inside her mouth and suck on her lips. This will definitely make her toes curl.
Also, try to gently pull her hair back from the back or slightly squeezing the part of her body that is located right under her breasts (her ribs). This could make for some very enticing kissing sessions.
2) Pay attention to the way she kiss.
People often give out what they would like to receive, so pay attention to the way she kisses you. That could be an indication of the way she wants you to kiss her. Does she bite on your lips or try to gently suck all the saliva off your tongue? Reciprocate by doing the same. She will love you for it.
3) Tell her what you like.
Does your loved one kiss you like she's trying to suck the life out of your body? Does she kiss too fast, too slow, or without using her tongue? Try not to tell her what you don't like, but rather what you do like. That way you won't hurt her feelings.
4) Control her mouth.
The next time you kiss her, hold her face with your hands tenderly and kiss her the way you would like to be kissed. If she is not turn on by this, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick.
5) Make it long-lasting.
Women loved long, slow, juicy, and enticing kisses. Your partner will definitely feel your passion through one of those prolonged tender kissing moments. Just like in the movies, kiss her hard and deep.
Now that you've discovered the basics of kissing, let's move on to some ways to make her think and want to kiss you all the time, hopefully. Here are some simple tips that can make you the ultimate Casanova:
1) Suck on her tongue.
Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning device on her tongue. Suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck on a woman's clitoris.
2) Lick her lips with your tongue.
Lick on her upper and lower lips in a slow, ticklish fashion. Once you have lubricated them adequately with your saliva, move your lips around her lips and let your saliva wet both of your mouths.
3) Suck on her lips.
If licking her lips quickly makes her wanting more, then begin sucking on her lips. Do it one at a time as no one wants to feel as though they've stuck their mouth inside a vacuum. Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough or she will get turn off and pushes you off. You would not want that to happen, do you?
4) Move beyond her mouth.
Don't be shy. You would not want to confine yourself to kissing just her lips. There's a whole face and body to explore. Go ahead and French kiss her chin, her neck and her breasts? Kiss her eyes, behind her ears or her wrists. Be bold and try something different. You'd be surprised at the results that a little creativity can produced.
If you've never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you'll know the basics of being a professional kisser. A quick way to tell if she enjoyed the experience: when you kiss her and then pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer. This usually means that she thoroughly enjoyed your kiss and there's a good chance that you could take it a step further. Just remember that everything starts with a kiss.Author: Joshua Wong works as an Accounts Executive and wants to promote awareness to good music and music appreciation. He's also into the concept of internet marketing. Visit http://www.e4l.biz/money.htm?wcw1908
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Let me give you an example, But how? How to meet women? Easy man. I found this tip on their site. Below is listed tip on how to get this women:
You found this women in street. You want to dating this lucky women or you want to date this women or you want to know this women. But, did you know how to approach this women?
Now, your problem is solve with this pick up artist site.
This site can be found at http://www.themodernman.com/. This is the Better Than A Pick Up Artist site. Here, you will learn on how to that approach women and get that lovely dates with this women.
1) It takes some time to learn about conversation with this women.
2) Understand that women want to meet guys too. If this is hard to understand, you can find this tip on my blog.
3) Decided what you really want from that women. Dates, Laid or anything else?
4) Anticipate where you might find your ideal type of women. In local bookstore or shopping centre in the end of the weekend.
5) Develop all of your ability to attract women and then move things forward.
That's it. If you fulfill all that above tip, you will get that women for what you want.
But, how about when you are Mr Nice Guy? Is mr nice guy always get women? No, I don't think so man.
Why? Why Mr Nice Guy fail with women? Below is list why,
1) You must understand what women really mean by 'nice guy'. When a woman says, "I just want a nice guy" she isn't referring to a nice guy who:
* Is nervous around her
* Is always nice to her, like he would be to his grandmother
* Calls her too often
* Tells her that he has 'feelings' for her too early
* Behaves submissively or weakly around her
* Always accepts her demands, just so she will spend time with him or continue talking to him
* Becomes her doormat and puts his own needs aside
* Listens to all of her problems and discusses them in the way her girlfriends would
* Gives away his power to her, and allows her to become the boss
* Always asks what she wants to do, instead of being a man for her and taking the lead.
2) Mr Nice Guy must realize that nice guys are not pick #1 with women. What would happen if you asked guys all over the world to STOP feeling a sexual attraction for slim, model-type women and start feeling it around obese women?
3) Become a good guy with EDGE. I really mean about this one. A good guy with edge is a nice guy, who also demonstrates the personality traits and behaviors that women are attracted to. Things like:
* Flirting.
* Confidence.
* Alpha male qualities.
* Humor.
* And more...
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There’s only one rule to first date conversations – don’t make a fool of yourself. Stop being overly anxious and suppress all signs of nervousness – appear relaxed, confident and at ease. Get the thought of rejection out of your head and avoid negative speculations. Think good thoughts, this can also help you exude a positive aura that always adds charm to your personality.
Silence can be your worst enemy on first dates, it makes me cringe just thinking about it. It can make one jump into the brink of nervousness and say things that you wish you hadn’t said. If you think the conversation will lead to some dead air, you can make little distractions like slowly sipping your drink. This would give you those precious split seconds to think of something creative to say to keep the conversation flowing smoothly.
There are a number of great subjects that can jumpstart a conversation. Make a quick observation of the person you are dating – if she’s the intellectual type, current events can be a good topic to start with. Talk about your present jobs and how happy or discontented you are with your career. Along that line you can also talk about your past schools and funny experiences you might want to share. Ask your date about her hobbies and what interests her. Always add some comments or a follow-up question to keep the conversation moving forward.
Those popular “what’s-your-favorite?” questions shouldn’t be missed. You can really get to know a person’s personal taste with this type of question. Since everyone generally loves traveling, you can also talk about your past leisure trips and some of the vacation spots you fancy – of course, your date would share his or her own thoughts of a dream holiday as well, and who knows, you might even end up having a vacation together.
One can tell a good date from a bad date on the basis of how the conversation on your first date went. Be prepared and have a mental list of the possible things you can talk about. The key to a successful first date is to be yourself – and as long as you can do that, everything else will follow.
Author: Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of http://www.planjam.com -- a new interactive planning website.
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Today's tip is going to be a little bit "evil". I'm going to tell you that sometimes it is good for your girlfriend to feel a little bit insecure about herself.
When a woman feels insecure about herself or doubts that you will stay with her, the "natural" response is usually to comfort or reassure her. But guess what? That is not always the right thing to do.
If a woman is one hundred percent certain that you won't ever leave her, guess what she's going to do?
That's right. She's going to lower her attraction for you. She may even cheat or leave you for another man.
Think about it. If a woman is never sure if you would leave her if she ever cheated on you, do you think she would be LESS likely to cheat on you?
Of course, this does not mean that you should be "abusive" and make a woman feel insecure on purpose. I do not teach any of that. (Nor do I believe in it.) However, what I DO suggest you to do is to "draw the boundaries". From the moment you get into a relationship with a woman, show her that you won't tolerate any "bullsh**" by acting like a man. Don't be afraid of calling out on her when she "screws up", and don't be afraid of giving her the silent treatment or pulling back from the relationship if she misbehaves.
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What you have to do is learn to keep them guessing about you... the same way women always keep us guessing about them.
Too many of us guys are always trying to read every little sign, every little signal, and we react to them like a puppet.
If she smiles and touches you, you're happy for a week. Then next week she won't even acknowledge you exist and you're ready to swear off women and become a priest or something.
We gotta stop giving them the power to make us jump whenever they want us to. We need to reverse this and have them always trying to guess about us.
In one of my earlier tips, I said that women are attracted to men who add some mystery and excitement to their lives. They like it when you take them on emotional roller coaster rides and keep them on the edge of their seats.
Simply put: Pay her a lot of attention one day and the next day pay her less.
Don't completely ignore her or come off like you have an attitude or something. Just act like you have other things that are attracting your attention or are more important to you at that time.
Good Luck!
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Allen Schiffenbauer and R. Steven Schiavo did an interesting little experiment.
They had a confederate (i.e. an ally of the experimenter who pretends to be a subject) sit either close to the subjects (2 feet), or far from the subjects (5 feet). In addition, the confederate
behaved in either a like able, neutral, or unlikable fashion toward the subjects.
What they found was when the confederate behaved in a LIKE ABLE fashion, the subjects tended to LIKE the confederate MORE when the confederate sat CLOSER to the subjects than when the confederate sat farther away.
Also, when the confederate behaved in an UNLIKABLE fashion, the subjects tended to DISLIKE the confederate MORE when the confederate sat CLOSER to the subjects than when the confederate sat farther away. Neutral behavior wasn't really affected.
So the moral of the story is...
If you're NICE, and you feel you're making a pretty good impression on a woman, then it would be to your benefit to decrease the distance between the two of you... slightly. Sit a little closer.
Stand a little closer. (A LITTLE closer -- Don't lay all over her.) Or use body language techniques to decrease the "psychological" distance between the two of you (such as direct eye contact, open relaxed posture, leaning the body or head towards her, etc.).
On the other hand, if you feel you're not making as great an impression as you'd like, then it might be best to keep your distance... minimize the damage somewhat until you're more on top
of your game. (Of course, this particular strategy wouldn't apply to any of YOU.)
What we're talking about here is simply one of the many ways available that you can subtly boost physiological arousal in women... and thus boost their emotional responses toward you. Sitting or standing closer to her will boost her arousal. In addition, you become the object of her attention... simply because it's hard to ignore someone who's close to you.
But remember, the key is to make sure that she likes you first. Then you can focus your attention on boosting that emotional arousal necessary for her to start the "falling in love" process.
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Think of all the women you've ever had plans with.
Think of the ones you stood up or cancelled on (if any) and think of the ones that you didn't. Ever notice that you hardly ever cancel on someone that you're TRULY interested in?
How, through hell or high water, if you thought she was really great you would make the date no matter what? And when and if you cancelled on a girl, did your opinion of her change afterward?
Here's the rub... everyone gather round and listen closely. When a girl cancels on you, it makes her like you LESS. Let me repeat that in case you're just tuning in. When a girl cancels on you, it makes her like you less.
This is a phenomenon psychologists refer to as "cognitive dissonance." Basically, the way it works is that whenever we do something that goes against our values (such as lying when you consider yourself an honest person, or doing something mean when you consider yourself to be nice) it creates a disharmony (dissonance) in our minds.
Our minds search for a way to explain why our actions are not in keeping with our perception of ourselves. They do this by making a sort of excuse for ourselves (for example, after you're mean to someone, saying that the person DESERVED your mean treatment makes it easier to understand why you would do something like that).
When a girl cancels on you, she may think of herself as a very kind person normally, but she tells herself that she cancelled on you because you were not her type, or not attractive enough, or not interesting enough, or whatever... she'll tell herself these things and BELIEVE THEM even if they aren't really true.
Cognitive dissonance is a bitch!
Luckily, it works both ways.
Whenever someone does something NICE for you, it makes them like you MORE. Even something simple, a small favor. It doesn't even matter how small.
At work, ask her to help you with some really minor project (this works on a couple of levels, because it shows you have the confidence to ask for help and it lets her do something nice for you). Make sure that it's something that she isn't FORCED or COMPELLED to do. Something that isn't in the job description, so that when she does it, she realizes that it was her CHOICE and that she CHOSE to help you, ergo she must like you.
If it's at a bar or a club, ask if she has a pen you can borrow. Something small and simple! You get the idea.
By doing this, you can turn your adversary "cognitive dissonance" into your friend.
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Say you approach a girl and start chatting her up. Her name is Lindsy.
After you talk to Lindsy for at least 30 seconds or so (could be longer though), say something along the lines of:
"Most girls I've known named Lindsy aren't very nice. I'm glad you seem nice. You seem like an exception."
Say this even if she doesn't seem very nice yet (unless she's a total b*tch). She'll try to redeem the "Lindsy name" by making more of an effort to be nice to you.
I recently stumbled across this trick by accident. I was talking toa girl named Lindsy in one of my classes, who was kind of ignoring me and not making any effort in the convo.
About a minute into the convo I asked for her name -- Lindsy. I made the comment that most girls named Lindsy aren't nice because in my experience this has been true. But I called her nice just to compliment her, hoping to make her a bit more friendly.
It obviously worked because ever since that she's been MUCH more friendly. She also brings up that comment often as if she's trying to prove how nice she is!
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I want to give Michael Jackson as a "dating example" because he is a phenomenon. Since years his female fans shout and cry although it may seem unexplainable for other men. He combines several features mentioned here on this site that makes this more understandable:
* Dance
* Have that something special (this applies to his face and clothes)
* Be successful and self-confident
* Shaved face
* Magnetic Mystery Man
* Dress nicely
* The irresistible Resistible (he is quite non-sexual, neither man nor woman)
* No sex talks
* Impotent homosexual
* Do something for others (he sings "Save the world"-songs and engages in charity organizations)
* Don't symbolize a loser (he is one of the top earners and one of the best dancers)
He fails however at
* Deep voice (but he has a strong voice)
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by Belgian "Leoncino" Mike
For years, I used to go to clubs and use the traditional techniques for approaching girls.
But as we all know, unless you know the girl through a common friend, it can be very difficult to engage in conversation with a total stranger. Not only because of the approach, but also because you are usually interrupting something they are doing (dancing/talking with her friends, etc.).
One night, as I was chilling by the bar enjoying my drink, I saw this pretty girl walk by. Out of pure laziness and an urge of nonchalance, rather than approaching her myself, I pointed at her with my index finger and signed her to come over. To my surprise, she did!
We were able to do small talk and she never seemed annoyed or distracted. Since then, I have repeated this technique many times over, and with great success.
Here are the reasons why this works so well:
1) Your telling them to come over and talk to you shows a LOT of confidence.
2) By doing this, you are usually not interrupting her dancing or conversation (or at a minimum, she decided to interrupt it herself).
3) You have her there alone... no annoying friends. Or if her friends come, typically only the girls will, leaving the guys behind.
4) You are the "host", she is the "guest." So if she loses interest, she will have to walk away... you just keep chilling there and wait for the next one to come by.
So next time you go to a bar/club, find yourself a relatively open spot with average foot traffic, plant yourself there with a drink, and start waiving them over. It works like a charm.
They always accept the invitation, and even if they aren't interested, they will have to politely excuse themselves rather than giving you an attitude until you back off.
Happy fishing!
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Ivan Pavlov was a physiologist who stumbled upon one of the most
important principles in all of psychology.
Pavlov discovered that he could teach dogs to salivate at the sound
of a tone if he repeatedly paired the tone with the presentation of
food. The dogs learned that the tone was a good predictor for food
(which they liked and which naturally elicited a salivary response).
Thus, by repeatedly pairing the tone and the food, the dogs learned
to salivate to the sound of the tone... regardless of whether or
not food was present.
This is known as classical conditioning and it's quite a common
phenomenon which influences most every aspect of our lives...
especially our love lives.
You see, EMOTIONS are particularly susceptible to classical
conditioning. Emotions are very often "elicited" by certain
circumstances as a result of past learning experiences (that is,
previous pairings or associations).
An obvious example is the emotion of fear. People often learn to
fear things because of previous unpleasant associations. For
example, a person may come to fear dentists (or perhaps the sound of
a drill) because of past painful dental procedures.
A woman who has been attacked may develop a fear of strangers or a
fear of men. Or maybe it's the garage or neighborhood in which she
was attacked that come to elicit feelings of fear and anxiety. It's
a simple pairing of a particular situation (or person) with an
emotion which causes similar situations (or persons) to elicit
similar emotions in the future.
On the positive side, think about an old girlfriend of yours that
you adored. (Everybody has at least one that they blew it with.)
You were crazy about this girl and would have done anything for her.
As a result you may have done a few things you didn't really care
too much for.
Maybe she was really into Italian food but you weren't. Frequently
you wound up in Italian restaurants in order to keep her happy. As
a result of the pairing of Italian food with this adorable lady, you
NOW love Italian food. Or maybe it's a particular Italian
restaurant that you two frequented that you NOW love.
Perhaps she used to love hiking so now you do. Or she was crazy
about cats and now you have several. Or maybe it was a particular
movie that the two of you saw together that still makes you feel
queasy. Or a particular song (your song) that brings back a flood
of vivid memories and intense emotions. Whatever it is, your
feelings for her were transferred to various other objects,
situations, or people as a result of being paired with her.
It's really fascinating to observe this pairing of situations and
emotions. Try to pay attention to the "classical conditioning"
happening around you as you go about your daily routine. It occurs
ALL THE TIME. And it's really quite interesting.
Now that we grasp the basics of classical conditioning, the question
becomes, "How can we use classical conditioning to help us in our
relationships with women?"
We could probably write an entire book on classical conditioning and
how it influences our love lives, our relationships, and our
emotions. But I'm just going to point out one or two things to you
right now and leave you to discover some of the other *secrets*
yourself.
Let's assume that the object of your affection (your girlfriend, or
maybe a beauty you're attracted to) is always in either a good mood,
neutral mood, or bad mood. That is, she's either experiencing good
emotions, neutral emotions, or bad emotions.
Our goal is simply to associate ourselves with her good emotions and
dissociate ourselves from her bad emotions. In this way, we can
MAKE OURSELVES into a type of infectious, charismatic individual who
elicits positive emotions and positive feelings... simply by
showing up.
And that's what you want, isn't it? You want her to be excited and
happy and feel good when you come around. You want her to look
forward to seeing you because she knows that she's going to feel
great. Isn't that how your lady (or the lady you desire) makes you
feel - happy, excited, positive?
And you definitely don't want your presence to elicit feelings of
depression, anger, or anxiety.
It's pretty simple -- the major point here to remember is that you
want to be around her when she's in a good mood and avoid her, like
the plague, when she's in a bad mood.
Nothing earth-shaking here. Yet it's amazing how guys can screw
this up. Sometimes putting themselves through a great deal of extra
effort in order to do so.
If the beauty at your office is in a bad mood (she's got a plumbing
problem), then you should spend as little time with her as possible
that day. If that cute little blond in your history class is
feeling exhausted (up all night studying), then this is not a good
time to ask her to lunch. If your girlfriend has a mean case of
PMS, stay away from her until she's in a more agreeable mood.
By avoiding her when she's feeling bad, you're not pairing yourself
with her negative emotional states... and conditioning yourself to
be a "negative emotion generator."
Now if she's in a good or great mood, then you should maximize your
time together. This should be obvious. And my guess is that you
probably WANT to be around her when she's feeling good anyway. So
do it.
And even if you can't spend that much time with her when she's
feeling good, then you'd like to at least get her thinking about
you. Call her on the phone. Send her a quick email. Accidentally
bump into her in the break room. Tell her a joke - jokes tend to
linger in the mind. Whatever. Use your imagination.
(As far as neutral moods go, you goal is to change those into happy,
exciting moods and associate yourself with these moods... but
that's a subject to be covered in the future.)
However, as mentioned, many guys screw this up.
If their girlfriend (or potential girlfriend) is in a bad mood, they
may try to make her feel better. They drop by her place with food
and ice cream - to cheer her up. They insist on taking her out to
lunch or dinner - brighten her day a little. They try to make her
laugh. They do her favors. They spend hours on the phone
sympathizing with her. They hang and hang and hang around. They do
everything BUT what they should do... stay away. Dissociate.
Now this budding Don Juan usually THINKS that his girlfriend (or
potential love object) being down or in a bad mood is an opportunity
for him to make a few points. That by doing his best to make her
feel better that she's, of course, going to realize what a great guy
he is... and maybe fall for him.
It's possible. Anything's possible. But I wouldn't bet on it. All
you're really doing is exerting extra effort to pair yourself with
her negative emotional states. Yes, you might make her feel a
little better, but you're most likely doing more damage to your
"charisma" than good.
Keep things simple. Just stay away.
And if you're a sensitive guy who feels bad because she feels bad...
well, remember that people often LIKE to feel down sometimes.
People often LIKE getting upset and venting. Somehow it helps them
to keep their lives in balance. Give her the freedom to feel bad if
she wants.
On the other hand, if she's been emotionally DEVASTATED that's a
different situation.
Maybe her best friend died. Maybe her new car got totaled. Maybe
her cat was run over. Whatever - it varies from girl to girl. If
she's your girlfriend (or significant other), she's going to EXPECT
you to be there for her emotionally. She's going to want to lean on
you and draw strength from you. She's going to want to emotionally
vent to you. And if you're not there for her, she's going to "hate"
you for it.
However, if she's been devastated and she's NOT your girlfriend
(just someone that you'd like to be), then it's probably best to
stay away until she's feeling better.
As mentioned, classical conditioning is happening constantly and I
can't possibly go into all of the related scenarios, but I'll
briefly mention one other instance... that of "good" and "bad"
news.
Yes, delivering bad news does rub off on to the person unfortunate
enough to deliver it. It's one of the most potent cases of
classical conditioning. She's feeling good. You arrive and deliver
the bad news. She's now feeling bad. Not exactly what you should
aspire to.
Never deliver bad news to a girl you're attracted to. Get someone
else to do it. Bribe someone if you have to. Just make sure you're
someplace else.
Now as far as delivering good news... Ooooh Yeeaah!!
Copyright baLooT Inc 2007.
Whenever you are making a move or advancing the relationship, DON'T ASK!
You need to be assertive and stay in control. For every question
you could ask, you can be assertive and use a statement instead.
Examples:
"What's your home phone number?"
...should be
"Let's exchange numbers so we can go get that cup of coffee."
(If you prefer not to "exchange" numbers, then tell her to give it
to you.)
"Can you go out this weekend?"
and
"Do you want to go ice skating?"
...should be
"Hey, let's go ice skating this Thursday or Friday."
In short, every "can you" and "do you want to" and "I was wondering
if you" needs to be abolished from your vocabulary! Make statements
- don't ask questions.
What is the point of this tip?
It's so you can get used to being assertive. Simple changes in
words have a powerful effect -- and not only does it affect those
you speak to, but it helps you understand where the control lies.
It lies with you.
And you'll get turned down a lot less. Guaranteed!
Copyright baLooT Inc 2007.
Tips By: Ispas Marin
Generally the most important step when dating someone is the anticipation moment which refers to your own decisions and also the prepairing for dating someone. And as the most important aspects are also the most difficult ones, people generally leave them aside or neglect them and this always proves to be harmful for a relationship. This is the exact purpose of this article: to make people understand the importance of this first prepairing for dating and to propose some ways to turn it into something unbelievable:
1) The right state of mind
Turning to optimism can have a decisive effect for meeting your soulmate.A self-assured person, a confident one generally attracts many persons as these are qualities saught by everybody.Shyness and pesimism give the impression of a troubled person who is not willing to meet someone not to mention dating that person. That is why you should always give the sensation of a person who is eager to live new experiences.
2) Beware of your priorities
You should always be sure of what you want: just dating or meet your soulmate?This awareness or clarity in your thoughts preserves an equilibrium between hope and fear. Decide what you most want from a long term relionship: look over the ones who are not to be changed and the ones which can be compromised.
3) Always preserve your values
Become aware of your values which cannot be changed by any means. If you will try to forget about them for the sake of the person you are dating, you wll encounter lots of problems as you can't escape your personality and thoughts for a relationship.Then see if the relationship can respect these values or not.
4) That's me, alright!
What is it that you want? What are your needs? What makes you happy?
what are your ideals and purposes in life?What are your strong and week points?What are your fears? You should always be very specific about your options and needs so that you can get help from the persons who love you.Being specific and showing exactly what you want can become like a magnet for possible'candidates' not only because of your tastes but also because of your preciseness.
5) Being a little selfish can be a wonderful thing!
Do what you want and what makes you happy.This means taking care of yourself and paying a lot of attention to your person. If you are happy you are prone to make the others happy too.
6) Don't say no to your friends!
Don't refuse help from your friends but first make sure that they are real friends, not the type who would stab you behind your back. You could recognize your true friends by their opinions which might not always be similar to your's but are intended to help you. Knowing thet you have reliable friends can help you a lot with your attitude.
7)The outside mirror technique
Others can become your outside mirror. You can see many reflection according to your state of mind and not only...You can become aware of your flaws and acknowledge your qualities.You can also observe if you are capable of making people laugh or happy and in this, you can find other qualities.Awareness enables choice.
8) Forget about the past!
Forget about your past and especially your past relationships as they can do harm to your present relationship. Sometimes memories should be forgotten as they can ensnare people.Nothing can be changed from your past so there is no time for regrets or 'what if's'.It is always beneficial to start over.
9) Everything is so fascinating about you!
It is natural that you always remember about the life you had before dating> Maybe this is what attracted the person you are dating: your relationship with your friends, your commitment and passions.Don't try to change or forgetabout your old habbits. They characterise you and what makes you fascinating.
10) So this is it!
It is claimed that relationships are what shapes our personality: all kind of relationships and experience as well.
These are basically the patterns by which we can gain a wonderfull relationship. I am sure that everybody knows them but they have to be highlined sometimes.It is the only recipe for success in a relationship. Be youself and know that!
- baLooT Inc 2007 -
Anyone that has been a frequent reader of the tips in thisnewsletter has noticed some very common but important themes.
They stress the importance of exuding confidence, not coming on toostrong at first, and having patience by not rushing a relationship.They pretty much give you a script to follow in order to keep awoman's interest level in you high.
I'm a senior in college as a management major and one of the books Ihad to read this semester was "What They Don't Teach You at HarvardBusiness School" by Mark McCormack. One of his business tips is tofollow the script in making a sale:
"Most deals seem to have a secret life which follows a kind ofpreordained script. Anyone who has ever killed one by closing tooquickly or too late, by shortening or extending a sale beyond itsnatural life, would probably attest to this."
The same is true in dating. How many of us have missed out on apotential relationship just because we moved too quickly, rushedthings, or came on too strong too soon. Other people miss out on arelationship because they wait too long and don't capitalize on anopportunity.
Also, we shouldn't extend a relationship beyond its natural life.Sometimes there comes a time when you have to cut your losses and
hassle, and isn\'t worth the trouble, end it. The fear of beingalone keeps people in relationships that cause them constantheartache and pain, even though they know deep down inside that theyshould end it.
The author also goes on to say, "By rewriting the script, they giveit an unhappy ending." If you've made this mistake of trying tospeed things up and have lost a relationship, learn from it. Don'tlet it happen again.
So let me remind you again to follow the script. Don't come on toostrong or reveal your feelings too soon. Don't rush things. Showsome patience and discipline by following the script, and you won'tmiss out on a potential relationship.
Thanks to Mark from SoSuave
There are only two people I know that are what you would call "Natural DJs" -- both of whom are good friends. One of them is Andy, the other Liam and both of them are in there early 20s. I know one of them through uni, the other is a neighbor.
I would like to share with you some of my observations of these guys because I believe that some of their qualities are exceptional,especially when it comes to handling women and life.
Many of the qualities that I have described have been well documented in the past on this website, but I thought it would begood to present to you their most obvious character traits.
- They both have an aura about them when they speak to you. Attimes you think that you are the only person in the world whenhaving a conversation because they speak with so much enthusiasm andinterest.
- They listen to what you say enthusiastically and remember certain details.
- They never have a bad word to say about anybody and have a great understanding of others.
- On the other hand, you're not exactly sure where you sit with themat times. Though very friendly and energetic, you sometimes have toface their cold shoulder which may cause you to try and regain their attention.
- They're very popular people. These guys know a lot of people from many groups. When out they can have a conversation with anyone andare always introducing themselves to others. They do, however, haveclose friends who they stick with most of the time, but loveinviting others to join in their conversations.
- They're unpredictable when they speak to you. You know how some people when they talk to you, you know exactly what they're gonnasay? With these guys, they could come up and talk to you about politics or tell you a funny story about fishing. Each conversationis entertaining.
- They always have a story up their sleeves. They always have a goodstory to say about a certain subject and even though it may not havea punch line or be that funny, they present it with such enthusiasm that it is entertaining nonetheless.
- They are not afraid to be different in the clothes that they wearor their style of hair. Again they are unpredictable in this department and love doing something different to attract attention.They usually have just a subtle difference in style that makes themstand out.
- They walk in a very positive manner with their heads held high andwith a purpose.
- They are not caught up in the boundaries of society. In fact,they act as if they are unaware of society's rules and stereotypes.They talk to anyone and react to situations how they see it. Forexample, when they see a beautiful girl they don't think "oh thisisn't the right environment", but rather they don't think. It nevercrosses their mind. They just go talk to her.
- They aren't afraid of women. They treat all women the same,whether it be a 4 or a 10 and know that that they can have every oneof them. They talk to women about all sorts of topics as well andare never concerned about what the women will think.
- They are not necessarily good looking. One of these guys is quiteugly, in fact, but his positive vibe and good fashion sense make himquite accessible to any women.
- They love life and they love women and they love talking about women. They don't have anything against women at all, and have many female friends.
- When they talk, they talk loud. They don't care if they offend anyone when they speak and people notice this and are drawn to them.
- Finally, they are always happy and have a passion for life. Even when bad stuff happens they have a way of keeping things positive and always give off a good vibe.
Cheers!
- baLooT Inc 2007 -
I find that the key part of the game plan is to keep the conversation going. Once you have your approach down, once you have this beautiful creature lined up in your sites, what the hell do you talk about?
Well, as we have all read over and over again, the first and foremost subject that she would LOVE to talk about is, *drum roll* HERSELF! Of course.
So, sitting in bed watching a little tv the other night, I happened upon Jay Leno interviewing the ultimate babe, Pamela Anderson. So I'm thinking to myself, "My God! If I ran into Pam Anderson, I would have NO IDEA what to talk about!" Than Jay started to run his game.
I was so surprised to see how he handled it that I burst out laughing!
First, he made sure to make good use of her name. Using both Pam, and Pamela, and more than once. The whole conversation was based around Pamela.
Now being this is The Tonight Show, and everyone is watching to hear about the guest and not Jay, this is not a big surprise. The surprise was that Jay was DJing her! He kept asking short, open questions about her. She would try to shift the conversation to another topic (him usually) and he would bring it right back to her.
They hit an embarrassing moment when the crowd sent up questions for Pam and they were all about her implants. She tried to crack on Jay for putting her on the spot, and he completely IGNORED it and went right back to talking about her!
He touched her lightly on the arm and shoulder a few times, even from behind his desk! Is that's not kino I don't know what is!
Anyway, my point is, I was amazed that I could watch how Jay talked to her (or any other pretty guest I would suppose) and I could learn how to keep the small talk going and the conversation centered around HER!
So, if you want a quick easy way to watch a DJ at work, check out Jay when he has a hottie on.
P.S. Regis and Conan are also incredible flirts when they have beautiful women as guests.
thanks to JoshCole
