What do you do when your husband cheats on you with your best friend? I never thought this would ever happen to anyone I knew. Actually, I never thought this kind of thing happened to anyone. My best friend Gina, myself and Alice were childhood best friends. We did everything together. We even all went to the same college. When Gina met Roger on campus, it was love at first sight. They seemed like the perfect match and had everything in common.
I could sense that Alice had a lot of envy towards Roger and Gina for being the perfect couple. I couldn't understand Alice's barbed comments directed at Gina behind her back. But then again, I always had a deep mistrust for Alice. I ignored her catty comments, but always made a mental note to keep her at arm's length distance. On Valentine's Day, Roger proposed to Gina at the most exclusive restaurant in New York City. Gina was elated. Roger's parents were well-to-do, and he bought her an engagement ring to the tune of $40,000.00. Needless to say, Alice was beside herself with jealousy. She didn't bother to conceal her jealousy either. Roger and Gina were married 2 years later.......
One weekend, the four of us booked a weekend trip at a Club Getaway sort of deal, and after a night of partying and drinking, myself, Gina, Roger and Alice decided to call it a night. In the middle of the night Gina and I heard noises. We got out of bed and listened closely. It was Roger cheating on Gina with Alice. Gina burst open the door and had a stunned look on her face. I wanted to die. Needless to say, Alice lost a best friend, Roger lost his wife, Gina lost her heart, and I was stuck in the middle.
What do you do when your best friend sleeps with your husband? I know this is hindsight, but, I believe people tell us who they are when we first meet them. I never trusted Alice. To me, Alice always came across as competitive, manipulative and jealous, even as children. Gina always brushed off Alice's jealous comments about other women and flirting with other people's boyfriends. I didn't. To me, I knew that if Alice could be so blatant about flirting with someone else's boyfriend, she was capable of doing anything - even to her own friends. She proved me right.
As for Roger, he showed us (Alice included) who he was way before they got married. Roger was extremely handsome and charismatic. Lots of women flirted with him and he gladly reciprocated - even in front of Gina. I always told Gina that his behavior was not only disrespectful, but insensitive and hurtful. Gina, as always, brushed it off as him "just being himself". Well, I guess you could say that Gina was right. Roger was being "himself" and Alice was "being herself." It's too bad Gina wouldn't believe what they were telling her through their behaviors.
The moral of the story? People tell you who they are within the first few minutes of meeting them. Had Gina paid close attention to Alice's behavior and Roger's behavior instead of trivializing their behaviors, she would have been spared the heartbreak, hurt, and humiliation.
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People Show Us Who They Are Within the First Few Minutes of Meeting Them
People Show Us Who They Are Within the First Few Minutes of Meeting Them
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Can there be anything like friendship between two people of the opposite sex? Many people think that this is impossible but i think that platonic relationship between a man and a woman is very healthy. Many women confess to having spent wonderful time with their male best friends with the absence of their husbands. Their husbands think it is great and i think they are right. A good marriage is based on trust and something like friendships with an opposite-sex becomes completely inconsequential. You must agree with me that this is a new relationship phenomenon featuring in only this generation. The previous generations believed that opposite-sex friendships were a potential bombs to many marriages. Family and marriage therapists believe that the easiest opposite-sex friendships to maintain are the friendships which were established long before someone got married. Such relationships are not threatening since you had them before you were married......
Some of these friends are helpful when it comes to shoe shopping, some offer perfect shoulders to cry on and some good ones are good at both. They respect each others partners a lot. Problems come in if one spouse in marriage does not have friends from the opposite sex. If your husband has some girlfriends he will rarely have a problem with you having man friends. Dramas start when partners create new opposite-sex friendships and keeps it a secret from her/his spouse. It is a clear indication that the person feels romantically attracted to the new friend. Such behaviors greatly interferes with issues concerning trust and harbors romantic jealousy. If one partner is so outgoing and the other one is reserved. The reserved one always thinks that the other one has romantic relationships with his female friends. Such unclear speculations can lead to divorce.
Deep insecurity in a relationship leads to thriving jealousy which shoots form zero to somewhere close to paranoia. You should introduce all your friends to your partner to avoid panic attacks. Couples should establish an honest and open communication about opposite-sex friendships. They are very beneficial. John who maintains a close relationship with females some of who are married including his high school friend, Staicy. They usually meet once or twice a week with Staicy who is sometimes accompanied by her husband. John says that he values the perspective provided by married women. They are more knowledgeable when it comes to relationship and are far better listeners. Their advice is always great. It is quiet unrealistic to expect one person to meet all your social needs. Your spouse cannot be everything to you. Well-managed cross-sex friendships are healthy to any marriage.
When people get married they tend to place so many expectations on marriage. They expect the relationship to fulfill all the social needs which might be impossible. People who hang out in mixed gender groups are more happy than those who only interact with people of their own gender. Opposite-sex friendships are more fulfilling. It is described as a spiritual form of love just like sisterly or brotherly love. in most cases the two friends share some interests or hobbies which are not usually shared by the spouse. It is a wonderful feeling to have a platonic relationship. However your partner should always have an open invitation.
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How Opposite-Sex Friendships Can Enrich One's Life
Telling a girl that you like her is something that the most macho of men fear. Of course, emotions can take over your logic & your actions as well. No matter what, you must be prepared mentally before you do anything at all.
Why not we start with some ways that totally will not work! Email, instant messenger, phone, letters, teddy bears, etc, these will not work. In this special case, you are about to express an important message to the woman you like, you must tell her face to face.
Never even attempt to ask her if she likes you! That is still not the worse thing you can ask. There was a friend of mine who asked a girl if he could kiss her! That really cracked me up! Can you imagine that?....
Now, put yourself in a woman's shoes, if you ask such dumb questions, how can she answer you? If she says yes to you, she will appear too cheap but if she really does like you & does not want to reject you, how is she supposed to tell you?
This is usually followed by the sound of silence..... An awkward silence between a man & a woman is what you do not want to experience for yourself.
It is no secret that women are attracted by the confidence of a man. Confidence only shows that a man is totally secure with himself which is really attractive to a woman. Those questions above will only make you look pathetic in front of her.
Do not ask too much or say too much, just bring your relationship to the next level, she will flow with you, if she likes you too.
Now for the most important part, how to tell her.....
- Your delivery method, the way you communicate with her, is even be more important than what you are about to tell her, especially in this special case.
- You must be at least 70% sure that she is also likes you before you tell her, you must tell her at the right time.
- Ambience is very important, especially to women, make sure it is a nice, romantic place.
Whatever happens next, just remember it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
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While walking on the street, we sometimes find a penny, food, ads and so much more. But it is rare to find a friend on streets. We thought that it is easy to befriend somebody with just offering a hand or by saying hi and asking their names.
When we do that kind of thing, we are sometimes snubbed, slapped in the face, and the hurtful thing is, we are ignored. It's so painful that our good deeds are misunderstood as foolish and sometimes we are treated like thieves. But don't you think that in our generation today, we can already win a friend; a true friend, in ten days?
With these tips that I'm going to give you you'll be amazed. You may say that it's crazy and ridiculous but it's fun and enjoyable and you will really say, THIS IS IT!!! These crazy yet fun tips are and should be done in a place with countless people.
On your first day, just simply walk on streets, sidewalks, or anywhere where you can find countless people walking around or even people who are doing something. Observe how these people talk or communicate or interact with other people.
On your second day, it's where the tapping happens. Just tap anyone who's in front of you and go on his/her right side right after tapping. For sure, that person will look behind and see who's there. The sign that he/she is not mad of what you did, he/she will smile obviously.
On the third day of your search for a friend, on that same place, give someone a hug. And after that crazy hug, run as fast as you can to make sure that he/she is not running after you. :)
Fourth day will be great because you will do something stupid. You will act like a beggar. And find out if there is someone or somebody who'll gonna say, "whoa, you don't look like a beggar"
On the fifth day of adventure, talk to someone as if you know him/her. Talk professionally.
On your sixth, seventh, eight, and ninth day, do the same thing of what you did from day one to day five.
Now, the time has come. The tenth day of your searching has come. As you go back on that same place, you don't know that someone is observing from the very beginning. It's crazy that you're the answer to your searching. That person who observed your acts from the start is your price..ha..that's really crazy dude. Hee hee...hope you like it.
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How To Win A Friend In Ten Days
Do you go to work and have your "public face" but then come home to an empty place? Do you find the only friends you have are on the computer? Do you feel lonely and wish you could change that?
Sometimes we don't see our own part in creating the very situation we don't want, but fortunately, when we finally do see it, we have the power to change our situation.
When we're lonely, the people who are around us seem like strangers and we may not feel drawn to any of them. Ironically, we don't go out and do things where we might meet people, because there is no one to go with. There may be people already near who have been trying to get to know us and feel we aren't letting them. We may think they're too geeky, too unattractive, too dull, and too different from us to be of interest to us, so we haven't been them a chance. But by altering a few of our habits and assumptions, we can start building wonderful relationships and in time, not feel alone....
Start by allowing others to get to know you, even if at first you don't have much interest in them. People can be quite surprising and some of the most amazing people don't look like much on first impression. Remember that most relationships need time to develop, especially the best ones. Even if you take a chance on someone and decide you don't like them after all, they may introduce you to someone you do like.
It's also a good idea to dust off your address book and make an effort to keep in touch with people you used to know, particularly if they live or work nearby. Perhaps like you, they just got busy or drifted away, but would welcome hearing from you. Because you already know these people, you are that much closer to developing good friendships.
It's also good to get away from your computer and go out and get involved in activities where you'll meet people in person. You could join a sport, volunteer, join a club, or take a small class. Try different situations until you find a social group that you like. The effort is well worth it.
Learn to invite people over to your place, too. You don't have to make it a big deal. Invite them over to watch movies or television. Find someone or a few people with whom you can cook a meal together once a week or once a month. Ask someone to help you with a home improvement project, or offer your help to him or her. Start waving to and saying hello to your neighbors and talking to them.
You can have richer connections with people if you're willing to give up some of your present habits. Not every person you meet will become a close friend, and it will take time to build friendships of value, but if you give it a try, you'll find your life will be quite different in the future.
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