Picking up women sometimes comes down to specific seduction techniques. If you want increase your chances of attracting and seducing a woman, then you should learn about quality routines to use on girls. Picking up women is not easy but it is not difficult either. You just have to know what the right thing to do is.
Woman desire men who pay attention to detail, especially woman who are beautiful. Woman need to feel wanted and needed. They need to feel that they are the only one for you......
But they vital key to seduce women is confidence. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Confidence and Cockiness are two things that women find irresistible. If you are confident in yourself a woman can see that and will be drawn to that. Confident men understand this is all part of the game, and take it in stride. Whatever you do, don't let a rejection get under your skin.
Confident men understand this is all part of the game, and take it in stride. Whatever you do, don't let a rejection get under your skin.
Success only came when you stop worrying about how to attract women. Instead, you should worry about how to be happy with yourself. Success is not a get rich quick scheme and will not happen over night. It takes time and hard work to get your seduction plan up and running. Success generally comes with simple approach.
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Why Is So Difficult To Seduce Women These Days?
When I was in junior high, my best friend at the time (Kyle McMenamy--wonder what ever happened to him?), showed up with a book he thought was the most amazing thing he'd ever read. It was entitled, "Subliminal Seduction" and it went on to describe how advertisers deliberately placed "subliminal images" in their ads that literally hypnotized people into buying.
The author (who I'm too lazy to look up) "proved" how a plate of fried clams was actually full of pictures of people having an orgy, how a beer commercial really was driven by images of oral fun, and all kinds of other exciting stories. Of course as junior high kids we ate it all up, and went around hunting for "subliminal seduction images" wherever we could find them. It was a lot of fun, but the only image I could ever see was the naked guy on the box of camel cigarettes. Supposedly there was a naked woman too, but I could never see that one, no matter how many different ways I looked.
Ahhhh, how I wish all of that stuff was true!
Why am I telling you all this? Here's why: I get questions every now and then from guys who want my opinions on "psychic ways to meet women," "relationships as energy," and "magick." Personally, I have no problem with any of those things with one exception: they just don't produce anywhere near the seduction results of actually talking with a woman.
Now, I've had some experiences that could only be termed "energetic" and I hope to have more. But none of these things are anywhere near as effective as doing the tried and true seduction techniques that get women to approach you, and these things all involve, at some level, interacting with a live woman.
Being a fun, unpredictable, naughty boy who she never knows what you're going to say or do next is a bazillion times more effective than any "psychic" or "energetic" method I've heard of. Running a well written profile on the online dating services will get more women to approach you than any "ritual" you can perform. Becoming a dynamic public speaker may not give you psychic abilities, but it'll dang sure get women to fight over you. When it comes to the seduction of desireable women, demonstrating authority never seems to fail.
My point is this: there are a certain set of male behaviors that get results with women, and outside of that, the efficiency of everything else is so low as to be non-existent. I think "energy" and "psychic senses" and "clairvoyance" are pretty dang cool, but I put them in the same category as "subliminal seduction." A lot of fun, but that's it.
If you want to be successful with women, just stick to the narrow set of behaviors that's been proven to work, and avoid everything else. When you think about it like that, it's actually kind of boring, but the seduction results sure ain't. To use a football analogy, it's like the difference between a "good loss" and an "ugly win." I'll take the ugly win 100% of the time.
Author: John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come to You", is author of the "Women Approach You" system at http://www.womenapproachyou.com. His blog is at http://www.johnalanis.com.
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Background
Seduction is a subtle tool used with the ultimate goal in mind of attracting and having sex with a chosen partner. Seduction is a form of flirting, but is more ambitious in its means, fulfilling our desire for sex and companionship.
Having sex may be the ultimate goal, but for some, the thrill of seduction lies in the pursuit rather than the actual conquest. The excitement of wanting and chasing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, just knowing that another person’s sexual attention is focused on them gives them that sexual and emotional high.
Generally, people with a great deal of self-confidence enjoy the pursuit more than those who are shy and introverted, and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success. Other factors in achieving success are choosing the right partner to seduce, picking the right time and choosing the appropriate location. These may seem obvious, but they really do matter.
Choosing the right person to seduce is more a matter of instinct than anything else. After all, most of us attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are.
Once you've sought out your potential mate, you have to decide whether the time and situation is right. If the person you desire is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and place being wrong may add to the thrill, i.e. the forbidden fruit. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other person is interested, but not being able to do anything about it, at least at that particular moment, can increase your feelings of arousal and excitement.
From here on out, this will be written from the male perspective, but can be equally applied to the female point of view.
The Approach
How do you know whether she's interested in you in the first place? Her actual body language is a better indicator of how she feels about you than anything she says verbally. For instance, women with an open posture are usually more amenable than those who stand with their arms crossed. Small gestures and tone of voice tell us a lot about how she might perceive us. Eye-contact is also very revealing. With experience, you'll get a 'feel' whether she's interested or not.
Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women’s signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something' and at least have a chance. Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless there are enough signals sent out to assure that the woman is indeed 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth doing.
The Follow-Up
Once you've made contact with her, you'll need to let her know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things. You should probably not blurt out something too obvious. You can, and that may work, but in general, the subtle approach is more likely to succeed.
You then ask her questions and try to access whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. If everything goes along smoothly, there might be a slightly tense, but hopefully, pleasant exchange of ‘self-probing’ back and forth conversation. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking, you have to sustain her interest. Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how attractive she might be. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good (and you haven’t gotten slapped), it's time to move onto the ‘kill’.
13 Things to Know
As a quick summary, here are 13 important ideas that you need to be aware of to get the girl of your dreams. The first 4 are actually things to avoid, while the rest should be followed.
Whether you’re on the prowl or already on a date, if you apply these concepts you will increase your chances of getting women to be more interested in you. Maybe even possibly enough to fall in love and have wonderful sex with you.
NEVER, ever look at another woman when on a date. It’s rude, disrespectful and can hurt her feelings.
NEVER, ever make comments about her weight or any other subject she might feel self-conscious of.
NEVER, ever use the time-of-the-month crack for any reason. There could be many reasons besides her ‘period’ to explain her moody or bitchy behavior.
NEVER, belch or do any other embarrassing bodily functions in front of her. Leave that for the guys’ poker night.
Be honest about you feelings. Don’t string along a woman just for sex if you have no intentions for an emotional commitment. Unless that’s all she wants as well, but you need to make sure what are her intentions beforehand.
Compliment her on her clothes, and how good and sexy she looks.
Always listen to what she has to say.
Pay attention to her and make her feel important and special.
As follow-up, buy her flowers, candy, cards, etc. to make her feel loved and wanted.
Be a gentleman by opening the door, pouring her drinks, etc.
Make an effort to get along with her family and friends, as difficult as that can be sometimes.
Don’t lose contact with you own friends
Treat her exactly how you would like to be treated.
Author: Jeremy Ben-Israel
If you would like more specific information about seduction and pick-up advice, go to www.SoundSeductions.com.
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Seduction is a question of subtle strategy with one ultimate goal - to have sex with someone.
The desire for sex is powerful; for some it can be as powerful as the need to eat and breath. Seduction is the road we take to achieve sexual satisfaction.
While the ultimate goal is to have sex, there are lots of smaller goals that need to be reached along the road to the sexual surrender of our chosen partner.
For some, the thrill of seduction lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, the electric thrill comes from knowing that another person's sexual attentions are focused on them. Those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence and their confidence increases the likelihood of success.
Those who are less confident usually find seduction far more difficult. How can you convince a member of the opposite sex to fancy you if you see yourself as being unattractive?
It's important that you choose the right person to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything else but most of us endeavor to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be our equal on the scale of physical appeal.
Once you've sought out your 'prey' you need to decide whether the time and/or situation is right for seduction. If the object of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time/place being wrong may very well add to the thrill. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other person is interested but that you can't do anything about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement.
But how do you know that he's interested? The best clues come from reading body language. Non-verbal signals are far better indicators of how a person feels about you than anything they may actually say verbally. Those with an open posture are usually more available than those who stand with their arms crossed. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to seduction. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than is usually acceptable, then the chances are you're on to a winner. Trust your instincts. You'll 'feel' whether he's interested or not. Small gestures and tone of voice tell us a lot about how the other person feels about us.
Flirt. Did I really need to mention that? Flirting is used in two ways. We flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women's signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something'. Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure him that it really is just a game and that you are indeed 'gettable'. Let him know that the chase will most likely be worth it in the end.
Once you've made contact with him, you'll need to let him know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things. This doesn't mean that you should just blurt out "I'm a dominatrix, how d'ya fancy being whipped?" or anything else quite as obvious. You can if you really must, and you never know, it might just work, but in general the subtle approach is more likely to get you what you want. Men generally take the lead in this area, asking questions and trying to access whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around 'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him some. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking you'll need to sustain his interest. Two people who've found each other through physical attraction may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction once mouths have been opened. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you fancy him. There are plenty more available males about just waiting to be seduced.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time to move onto the final yielding. One of you must surrender. In all probability it will be you, because even if you initialized the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place. Surrender and enjoy!
Author: Sharon grew up in East London but moved to Norway at the age of 19, returning to England in 1998. She now lives in Cheshire with her partner and two of her three children. Besides writing, she is currently studying Social Science with The Open University, runs a web site where women in the UK can meet other women for platonic friendship (www.friendsyourway.co.uk), potters in her garden, knits and reads everything she comes over.
s.jacobsen@friendsyourway.co.uk
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In order to learn how to seduce a woman you need to understand that the most important thing is to pinpoint the moment when a woman wants to have sex as much as you do. A woman wants to be pursued and desired by a man. You must have enough courage to make the first move. Once you make the first move you are on the path of knowing how to seduce a woman.
When you decide to make the first move it is important to understand that it is only natural to be nervous. The best time to make a first move is during a transitional stage in a relationship. This is when a relationship goes from being non physical to physical. You want to locate opportunities where you can move ahead and interact with a woman.
The transition should be well planned in order to seduce the woman. When figuring out how to seduce a woman you must always plan ahead. You should jot down certain moments such as where you can progress from getting a woman's number, to touching her, to kissing her and to seducing her. The transition should seem non-offensive and non-intentional. You do not want to come on as being too aggressive or too needy.
When you are learning how to seduce a woman you should understand a woman from deep within. This means that you must understand what she wants in order for you to progress. She may want a man who is confident or a man who is a gentleman or a man who is interested in a specific cause. Find out what she responds to, in order to be successful.
When you are making the first mover remember to be methodical, articulate and calculative. Plan ahead and know how to seduce a woman. You should set the scene so to speak. Seducing a woman is an art form that has a certain rhythm. The progression from friends to intimacy should be well thought out and smooth.
Make a woman desire you. Seduction is a two way street. When you make the first move make sure that the woman is responding to your filtrations. Evaluate her smile and gestures. These will allow you to know when the perfect moment has arrived to practice the art of seduction. As many seduction experts agree even a player or Casanova must be smooth and articulate when seducing a woman. This is how to seduce a woman.
Author: Penny Susman
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The worst problem guys have is that they can’t seem to overcome their hesitation, fear, and serious attitude around women.
The problem is, we don’t have the right people to model and copy – guys who are just naturals with women.
We’ve all known that guy from school or work who just seemed to get lots of women effortlessly, without lines or routines or seduction formulas. This guy was just, well, a Natural with women and we envied his seemingly magic talent
Another group of men that has an uncanny success with women is The Charismatic. Such men possess a raw charisma that shines through in group situations.
So the question is, what’s the difference between true Naturals and Charismatics, and how do you incorporate the secrets and skills of one or the other… or both?
THE NATURAL
Being a true Natural with women is all about letting go and letting loose. Whereas most guys have had their fresh, carefree, childlike spirit beaten out of them, the Natural is, above all else, playful, with a smile on his face and a glint in his eye.
Whereas most guys have learned through school and work to act carefully and deliberately, trying to always please, thinking of how they look in other’s eyes, Naturals are blissfully uncaring, lighthearted, and don’t take anything too seriously.
In this way, Naturals are like children, infecting everyone around them with their youthful impulsiveness and spontaneity. Their playfulness translates into a fearlessness and brazenness with women that most other men have lost. And this relaxed playfulness has an intoxicating effect on women, promising them the chance to come out of their own shells of boring conformity.
THE CHARISMATIC
The Charismatic man is particularly successful in groups of people. It’s his smoothness with language that makes him stand out - when he speaks, he uses storytelling, vivid imagery, and delightful spontaneity to move the group to laughter, excitement, and mass euphoria.
The Charismatic knows how to use his body language to command attention, using sweeping physical gestures, animated expressions, and piercing eye contact.
When he speaks, he puts his audience into a sort of hypnotic trance, and no one can take their eyes off of him.
As a result, people feel alive and energized around him, like a kind of electric current passes between him and the group, feeding off one another. Men want to follow him and women want a chance to be with him.
The Charismatic is no entertaining clown however. He makes girls compete and work for his reward and approval, and does not reveal all of himself at once.
And whereas most men hesitate before taking bold action, The Charismatic acts with single-minded self-assurance. He expresses what others are afraid to express. He says what others want to say, but don’t. He does not apologize for who he is or go halfway- and he is never afraid of going too far. It’s this unbridled openness that’s part of his magnetic attraction to women.
You see, most girls are in fact, incredibly bored with their lives. They attempt to suppress their inward sexuality and inner feelings because it is socially unacceptable. Yet women crave openness, adventure, and wild passion.
It’s the Charismatic’s unshakable confidence, sense of adventure, and open acts of social risk that hits women like a thunderclap. He delivers the intense, emotional fix and escape from reality that they’re looking for.
YOUR FIRST STEP
Now you can focus on becoming more of a Natural with women or a Charismatic into your own core personality.
But being natural and having raw charisma can’t come from traditional book study. That’s why renowned hypnotist Damian Transari and I have developed two new trance CDs designed to put your mind into the state of the natural and charismatic archetypes.
The Natural trance CD will bring out the natural seducer in you, making you playful and uninhibited and effortless, throwing off the heavy chains of seriousness, snapping apart the bonds of social pressure holding you back. Click here to hear a free audio sample
The Charismatic trance CD will build the behaviors and mindset of the Charismatic into our own selves by ridding the self-consciousness and discomfort most of us feel in groups. We too can command body language, spontaneous fun, and group tactics for winning over women. Click here to hear a free audio sample
Through these two CDs, offered here for the very first time, you can try on new behaviors, new skills, and clean out daily negativity all in a rapid manner, while you’re in an altered state of suggestible trance.
Check it out today!
Derek
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You might not be the best looking guy (heck, most of us aren’t), and you might not have youth on your side, but there’s an effective way to make up for your less-than-perfect looks - and that’s dressing right.
99% of guys I see, I’m not impressed. Most guys look disheveled. But even the guys that look put together, they’re dressed in the most boring fashion. They may be dressed neatly, but dressed to conform, to not be noticed, to blend into the background.
So just by dressing in the right way, I can get a solid advantage over the other guys out there in attracting women.
But some guys enthusiastically move to the opposite extreme, “peacocking” themselves in a sort of three ring circus manner, complete with colored fingernails, PVC tight pants, charm lockets hanging around their necks, or digital electronic signs flashing on their chests. This will certainly get you lots of attention, and more power to you for going all out.
But I’m going to share some of my own dressing techniques that will make you stand out from the crowd as an intriguing and sexy dresser, yet allow you to feel comfortable with they way you’re dressed.
And I bet you can’t guess what my first best advice for dressing is…
My first favorite tip is to wear boots. I love boots because they make you look taller. I always look for and use boots with a two inch heel. After all, you have every advantage in appearing taller to women. A tall man can overcome lousy looks. But whether you’re tall or short, every inch counts.
I also look for interesting boots that stand out and look unique. For instance, I have a pair of fake-leather iguana cowboy boots. When I’m out on the town in South Florida here, I’m the ONLY guy wearing cowboy boots. I get opened by women on a regular basis on those boots because they’re so unique. The cost? $60 dollars.
I’ve also got a pair of black leather cowboy boots with red flames spreading from the toe up the length of the boot. They’re more colorful, and I get even more comments on them- just about every other time I wear them I get stopped by a woman about those fire boots. I’ve even been stopped by men asking wear they can get a pair. Cost? Well, they’re made of real leather and imported from Europe, so kind of expensive- $200 dollars, but worth the price.
Then I’ve got my standard black boots. These boots give weight to my feet, give me two extra inches of height, and have silver metal decorations on the toe that catch the light. I don’t get stopped on the street about these ones, but they’re good all general purpose boots for any day or nighttime occasion and go with any outfit. Cost? About $70 dollars.
Another dress item that works wonders is hats. I have two hats in particular that I really love. One is a dark tan straw cowboy hat, (sort of looks like the one Crocodile Dundee wears). Girls love that hat. They grab it off my head and try it on. It also adds about 3 more inches to my height. Between the boots and the hat, I go from about 6 feet to 6 feet 5 inches, which makes a huge difference in my physical presence. Cost? $36 dollars.
I’ve also got a more casual “baseball cap”. Except this cap has a skull and flames sewn into the front against a blue background. The colors catch the eye immediately, draw women’s eyes to my face, and the skull and flames convey danger and adventure and the sexy rebel. Cost? I found it at Ross on a total fluke for $3.99.
As for shirts, throw out everything you got from Macy’s, JC Penney, and Walmart. These stores are selling cheap volume to the bored and uninspired masses. You will not find one shirt in those stores that will make you truly shine.
It’s hard to describe my favorite shirts, so I’ll just tell you where to find them. I’ve found a few of my best shirts in South Beach, which is full of specialty clothing stores. I’ve found some good shirts on Melrose Avenue in Hollywood, California as well as Hollywood, Florida and North Miami Beach.
All of my shirts have a dramatic design with a high color contrast between the shirt’s base color and the design’s color. For instance, I have a bright white button-down shirt with a bold, jet-black design splashed across the chest. The contrast between the snow white and the jet black really grabs the eye.
Expect to pay $60 to $140 for a good shirt. You can usually bargain down in speciality clothing stores 10% to 20%. Yeah, it’s expensive, but it’s a lot less expensive than a fancy car and you’ll get far more positive attention from women with the right shirt.
When I dress like everyone else, I almost never get eye contact with women. When I’m dressed, I get eye contact from women constantly. And I feel sexy and confident from the validation- it feeds your ego and makes you daring. My clothes make a HUGE difference in my game.
Now what happens when a woman compliments you about something that you’re wearing?
If you’re dressed right, it’s going to happen on a regular basis, so you need to be prepared for it. Usually the woman will say something like, “Hey, nice boots!” or “Wow, I love your shirt.”
What I first do is acknowledge their compliment with a “thanks” and a big smile, which is a conveyance of nonverbal sexual cues… my voice and my smile.
Next, I’ll open them on a completely different topic, like an opinion opener or I’ll use a statement like, “Wow, you’re so cool…” I’ll say in a playful, exaggerated manner. “I love you!” and then I’ll hug her. Then I’ll switch topics completely.
So those are just some tips to look smashing without going the circus sideshow route. Just whatever you do, don’t dress like everyone else, don’t dress in “safe” clothing from the departments store, designed primarily to put people to sleep.
And yes, you’ll have to invest a little money, but it will be one of the best investments you ever make. Just think how much TIME you’ll waste if you’re not dressed right, and you’re time is worth money too.
So we’ve talked a lot about your externals, but what about your INTERNALS? That’s what my Deep Inner Game Program is all about – reprogramming you from the inside out so that you feel just as good on the INSIDE as you’ll look on the outside.
Deep Inner Game is broken into 5 CDs, each dealing with a different aspect of your development- your confidence, your sexuality, your playfulness, your ability to connect, and your smoothness and flow.
BOTH outer preparation and INNER preparation are necessary components for your ultimate success with women. Get started on building that wardrobe and check out The Deep Inner Game Program right now. Together, you’ll experience some amazing results.
Until later,
Derek
Let's dive right into these few paragraphs that have been reduced from 30+ pages. Do yourself a favor and read every word right now. After reading this you will discover that the key to increasing the frequency of sex you get is determined by how well you understand just 2 things.
And these are two things that you probably already know about. The only difference is your success and how well you benefit from this formula will be based on how well you act on these two things.
Keeping these two things in mind will allow you to dramatically increase the amount of sex you get in a very short amount of time.
The formula always works, so if you want more sex, pay attention. Before I reveal what it is, let's look at some super simple facts:
Fact #1: Having sex is fun.
Fact #2: Having more sex is more fun!
At any rate, the formula (or the components that will allow you to have high quality sex) is driven by two factors: Opportunity + Perception.
That's it.
Sex = Perception + Opportunity (That's the formula!)
Do yourself a favor and remember this formula for the rest of your life. It's the simplest seduction formula on the planet that will ever be created. And as long as it is engrained into your mind, you will be changed forever.
Forgot about the hard-to-apply seduction techniques that are followed by a strong urge to practice it like hell.
Forget about long, hard-to-remember seduction techniques. I've seen them all. And every time I read these impossible-to-remember techniques I bust out laughing. Forget about seduction techniques that are created from silly scripts that don't offer any success-driven understanding.
They say: "Tell her blab, blah, blah and she'll go crazy."
Most guys are intelligent enough to know that any success stemming from such methods is purely a result of having the confidence (or balls) to perform it. Realistically, you need more than confidence to execute seduction perfectly.
Again,
Sex = Perception + Opportunity
If you are already getting the amount of sex you want then by law you are meeting the requirements.
If you don't understand what that means, that's not a problem. It will be explained in great detail later.
Here's a quick story that is true.
About six years ago I became the number one salesman for a company. The top executives became so impressed with the sales records I was breaking that they made special trips to see me. When asked what I saying to the customers, I told them: "...nothing special. I just focus on getting the customer to realize that it makes sense (perception) to buy what I am offering and then finding out if they have the money to buy or the time to buy (opportunity)."
Even though that response didn't impress them, it was simple and very effective. In the seduction world the same rules apply.
The opportunity to allow sex to take place must be there. And she must perceive you as a person that is sexually desirable.
Before we look at getting that "lust-generating" perception -- which can be a very exciting process -- let's look at what it means to have an opportunity.
In simple terms, if you want to have sex with a female but there is no place to do it, then that means you don't have an opportunity to have sex with her.
You would think that this is obvious, but many guys get rejected for sex because they have no opportunity when they initiate (ask for) sex.
For example a guy initiates sex with his "neat-freak" female companion even though his room/apartment is messy. He has no idea that an opportunity to have sex doesn't exist. An opportunity is simply a place, convenient time, suitable mindset, to have sex.
The reason why this seemingly obvious part of this simple equation is being spotlighted is because there are millions and millions of guys out there that aren't having sex just because they lack the opportunity. They haven't created an opportunity.
Just because you are willing (or you think there is an opportunity) doesn't mean that your partner is willing under the same conditions.
So as you can see, it is super simple to focus on finding out what her obstacles are so that you can remove them. And as a result, you will lengthen your opportunities to have sex - which is simply the potential to have sex.
Many guys have no concept of her personal distractions - the things that make her incapable of having sex. She may want to have sex with you, but she may not want to have sex in a messy room (for example). She may be desiring sex or at a minimum open to the idea one second, but not open to the idea of having sex a little bit later on when she is tired.
To maximize your opportunities, you need to REMOVE the obstacles that turn her off and then ADD the things that turn her on.
For example:
It would be good to initiate sex in a clean room.
It would be better to initiate sex in a clean room with candles or music playing (or whatever turns her on)
This seems painfully obvious.
But if you are not getting the amount of sex you want from her you are probably not satisfying the "opportunity" part of the formula on some scale.
Chances are she has told you to either: dress up, find a babysitter, play music, decorate the room, buy handcuffs, blah blah blah. These are things that create and maximize your opportunity.
If she is tired all the time, then a $5 bottle of vitamins could do the trick. Attack the problem. Create the opportunity.
Now that I have exhausted you with the "opportunity" portion I will now charge you up as we dive into the perception part of the equation. Being able to control her perceptions is undoubtedly exciting.
It's pure 100% fun.
And all it requires is that you get her to have the perception that you are sexually desirable. Your goal isn't to be the sexiest man on the planet. You just need to be sexually desirable to the female you want to have sex with at that time.
If you hate/despise yourself with a soul-blackening passion, that has nothing to do with this simple seduction formula. As long as she perceives you as sexually desirable she will be willing to have sex with you.
If she has that magical perception, then it doesn't matter if you think 99% of women would rather be gang-raped by a tribe of trolls than to have thoughts of having sex with you.
It's that simple.
And no I'm not referring to the evil sexually acts of trolls, I am talking about capturing and winning her perception.
You don't need long scripts.
You don't need to hypnotize her.
You don't even have to engage her imagination on a deep level.
When you think about the purpose (the bottom line) of doing the things that were just mentioned (and I'm not against them), then you will quickly have no choice but to realize that it is really about getting her to that point where she thinks (internalizes thoughts) that you are sexually desirable.
If you went up to a random female and you blurted out to her something bizarre like: "I don't like you. You are a dumb female." then in about 1.5 seconds she is going to get the perception that you are an asshole. Right?
I don't recommend doing this. But seriously, in a short among of time she is going to get an instant perception of you.
And even though it wasn't a favorable one, it still was an instant perception.
It may be that you are childish, rude or weird, but either way she will get an instant perception of you.
Did you have to use any complicated language patterns to get her to feel this way? Was it necessary to put her into a deep trance in order for her to get the impression that you are rude jerk?
Nope.
The same works for getting her to feel that you are sexually desirable.
Chances are she has told you what those ingredients are.
Your job is to keep increasing the intensity of the perception until it reaches the
maximum level.
And we'll refer to this level as the Rock Star Level.
Because all a Rock Star has to do is point to the bed and she'll jump on it shaking with desire with her panties dripping wet.
When these guys take a woman back stage, they don't have to use hypnotic scripts or NLP.
If you are trying to maximize the intensity of her sexual "perception" of you, then you are striving to reach this level (The Rock Star). Let's examine the elements/ingredients of the Rock Star and see why he has so much Sexual Value.
1. He is adored by many (high demand = high value)
2. He is scarce/rare (hard to get)
The main reason why women go crazy over the Rock Star is because all the other women want him plus he isn't easily accessible. A lot of his value comes from the fact that he is out of reach.
So if a female ever gets an opportunity to have sex with the Rock Star (and they are under the assumption that most women could not be with him even if they wanted to) they melt!
They lose control.
So in your world, all you need is for your woman to get the "combination of elements" that get you the right perception.
Peace Love & Happiness
CR James
Author of Super Sex Power: Magnetism
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Nice guys finish last!
How many times have you heard that expression?
While you're probably sick and tired of hearing this expression, there is a lot of validity to it. When it comes to the dating game, nice guys have a tendency to be pushed around and used by women.
The problem is when you act like a nice guy and get used by women, it's not their fault. In fact it’s YOUR fault.
By acting like a nice guy, you're displaying many characteristics which are undesirable to women. Primarily your nice guy routine is a selfish act in disguise.
Here's why…
When you're acting like a nice guy, you're probably subconsciously thinking you'll "get rewarded" for your good deeds. In a way, it's a selfish thought pattern because you think any woman you do nice things for should return the favor in the form of physical contact and sex.
Now instead of trying to be a nice guy, you should work hard to eliminate this behavior and focus on becoming a sexually desirable man. By doing this, you can learn to attract women through your personality, not from being a provider of favors.
Here are three ways you can get started:
The first step is to stop acting like a goody-goody friend to every woman you meet.
If you act like a woman's friends, you'll be become that- her FRIEND. The one truth to dating is your "girl friend" will never become your "girlfriend".
In other words, your "girl friends" will have fun with you and will let you do favors for them, but will always look elsewhere when it comes time for romance.
In order to stop being a nice guy, you have to eliminate the instinct to act like a woman's buddy when you first meet them. Instead you should act like a sexual confident male who doesn't kiss a girl's butt just to get attention.
Don't be afraid to let a woman know that you want to date her. If she is uncomfortable with it then you shouldn't afraid to move on.
The next way to eliminate the nice guy persona is to act a man.
When you learn how to act like a confident male, you'll become a guy who women WANT to date. Unlike the nice guy, you shouldn't be someone who looks for social acceptance in his actions. This means becoming an alpha male with a strong personality.
So try to cultivate these personality traits into your life:
• Showing confidence in all your actions
• Displaying integrity with the people you know
• Sticking to your word and your promises
• Being an exciting and interesting person
• Having charisma
The good news is all these characteristics can be easily learned. As long as you can build up these characteristics, you'll become an alpha male status man who is able to attract women.
The final way to ditch the nice guy attitude is to practice and date different women.
While I'm not a proponent of using women, you can quickly become a confident man by dating multiple women. By doing this, you'll become a sexual confident guy who won't need to do favors for women to generate their attention.
By dating different women, you'll discover what you want from a woman, and you'll start to develop a firm idea of what you're looking for in your ideal partner. If a woman doesn't live up to your standards you won't be afraid to let her go.
The end result is you should focus on becoming a guy who is confident around women, yet doesn't feel the need to "buy their attention". If you learn how to act like an alpha male, you'll stop the "door mat" and will become a guy who women WANT to date.
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Ever sit at a bar and look around, and notice that some guys just have that innate indescribable characteristic – that charm that attracts woman to them. I hate to burst your bubble the truth is - whether those guys are conscious of it or not, they are utilizing some very simple tactics to attract the opposite sex.
Some of the top social psychologists from all over the country have complied data that says up to 80% of interpersonal attraction is non-verbal. What they mean is that the battle isn’t finding the right thing to say, or the perfect pick up line - it’s all in the subtle idiosyncrasies that we as humans use to communicate daily with other humans – with even being aware of it. Scientists have confirmed that the battle in the bar, or the nightclub is won with body language. The editors at PLEASURELOUNGE.NET have compiled the TOP 5 ways to seduce any woman in under 60 Seconds.
1. POSTURE
Regardless of how tall, or how buff someone may be - the guy with anatomically correct and a powerful posture gives off the vibe that he is confident and important. Let’s face it, we all want to date attractive women, but we must also realize that attractive woman are hit on all the time. That’s why you have to stand out, and having a commanding and powerful posture will definitely help. There are 3 basic rules of a good powerful posture
1. Imagine a string attached to the top of your head, and then imagine someone pulled the string straight up towards the sky. This should slightly elongate the neck and straighten the back.
2. Shoulders should be slightly pulled back to reveal an open and broad chest. Too much of this and then you’ll give off the vibe that you are too cocky and probably just compensating for something…small. A broad and open chest shows that one is unafraid of the environment around them, and ready for anything that may come their way.
3. Hands - our funny five fingered extremities that are so vital to our survival, but in nerve-racking situations always run for cover in a pocket. Your hands should be free and relaxed. Hold a drink or cigarette if you must, but simply keeping your hands calm goes a very long way - The worst thing a guy can be is be the bar table drummer.
2. EYE CONTACT
Various studies on the brain have shown a massive increase in brain activity when we look directly into another persons eyes. It all goes back to Darwin and the survival of the fittest. Eyes aren’t only used to help us navigate our environments, our eyes are also how we express ourselves. I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage – Eyes are windows to your soul – I know, sounds cheesy, but in a way it’s true. Pay attention the next time you’re out at a bar and you’ll be surprised. Here are some very important signs to look for.
1. Have you ever walked past a woman whom you catch them for an instant looking at you and as soon as you focus back on them they look away. It’s what I call a “lure.” Whether she knows it or not, she is actually letting you know, through non-verbal communication that she’s interested. Woman have been molded by our society to be the prey, and allow men to be the predators. Next time you see notice that cuttie you thought was blowing you off pull one of these, attack.
2. Another very important factor in gaugeing whether or not she is interested in you is by watching the pupils. I know this sounds very CIA, but when people are attracted to you, their pupils dilate and become larger. Even more interesting is that people are also considered more attractive when their pupils are dilated. Hence, bars always that dim lighted ambiance, and let’s not forget what a couple of drinks can do to your pupils. Eyes are very revealing so pay close attention and you’ll be ahead of the game.
3. STANDING OUT
It’s funny how much you can learn about out mating rituals by observing our good friends in the animal kingdom. Although this next principle varies from specie to specie, every organism that mates is attracted to it’s counter part for certain reasons. For example, the male peacock with brightest and most robust feathers will get more peacock booty. Same goes for the duck, or the rooster with the largest RED thingy. Now I’m not saying go out dressing like Dennis Rodman, but wearing a little flare next time you go out will help you stand out from the crowd. Because let’s face, most clubs you go don’t have the best ratio. It’s usually a bunch of horny guys battling and competing with each other for the same limited resource – the hot single girl. I can’t really tell you what exactly to wear, but I can tell you that no matter how outrageous it is, if you have the balls to wear it, and be confident – you’ll definitely stand out from that sea of douche bags.
4. SMILING
I was very skeptical about this tip until I actually went into the trenches and tried it myself. The principle is really simple – Whenever you enter a room, come in as though you’re the king of the world and that you’re feeling like a million bucks. Studied have shown that in a crowded room, such as a bar, or a club, the people that are most noticed are the one’s who just come in. However, the way most brains work is that if some object is relatively similar to all surrounding objects then that thing will probably go unnoticed. So I took to the streets with some of my fellow PLEASURELOUNGE.NET editors and hit up some local hot spots to see what exactly us guys look like in action, and I have to say, Derek Zoolander would be very threatened at all the Blue Steel wannabees walking in. It was very easy to see how a smile and maybe even a chuckle could make you more desirable in to woman in under 30 seconds.
5. THE FIRST MOVE
This is by far the most important thing every man should know and live by. Even if you have all four of the previous tips perfected, without this you are just not in control. I like to call it the 3 SECOND RULE. Man’s worst enemy in bars and clubs aren’t other men, or bitchy pre-menstrual woman – Man’s worst enemy is himself and his own insecurities. We all have them, and chances are we will always have them. The 3 SECOND RULE was designed to bypass anyone’s insecurity and probably the easiest tip on this list. So with out further adieu – The next time you see a woman you’re attracted to and want to approach, you have exactly 3 seconds to make your move before your insecurities will talk to you out of it. Now I’m not a shrink, and I’m not even going to touch on the subject of what causes insecurity in men and blah blah blah…The truth is I don’t care. Because if you make your move in 3 seconds or less, you never have to let those insecurities affect you. That’s all there is too it. From the very first moment you lay your eyes on that beautiful blonde with perfect breasts and Angelina Jolie lips, you better get your ass in gear because after 3 seconds, I guarantee you that you’ll just another one of those guys, standing up against the bar drooling all over yourself wondering what could have been.
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Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful tool in many areas, from therapy, to sales, to self-improvement. As a powerful tool of influence, many man have asked how it can be applied to seducing women. It can be applied in simple ways with limited effect, or it can be used to make a woman desire you completely. Here is how to use NLP to seduce women
1. Positive use of language
A simple but effective use of NLP is to make sure you never use negative language. Saying "today wasn't amazing, thinks didn't go as perfectly as I'd imagined" is so much better to hear than "today was awful, things went terribly". Just simply using positive words rather than negative words allows you to convey the same information without affecting the mood.
2. Pacing and leading
If she is speaking negatively, first pace it by agreeing and expanding on it, but then take charge and turn things positive by changing the subject or positively reframing the negative event. Pacing and leading also applies to energy and state. If she is cold with you, don't be loving with her, instead match her coldness and then slowly lead her into being seductive by slowly becoming seductive yourself. The same applies to if she is tired or bored, pace and then lead.
3. Mirroring and matching
When people spend a lot of time together, they tend to share mannerisms, reactions, vocabulary, and tone and speed of speech. You can see this with good friends, couples, and relatives. If you match and mirror someone, they will feel a lot more comfortable and relaxed with you and like they have known you longer. Do this by:
- Speaking at a similar speed, and using a similar amount of gestures.
- Feeding back the words they use in conversation.
- Mirroring the way they sit, the amount of eye contact, and the facial expression.
You can get away with a surprising amount of mirroring and matching: they don't seem to notice!
4. Anchoring
Anchoring is the process of linking a touch, sound, or visual input to an emotion. When the woman laughs, you can click your fingers, or touch her and it will anchor the emotion to the click or touch. Later you can try to re-trigger the emotion by simply firing the anchor- the touch or click. You can also anchor by playing songs when she is with you that she will later hear and associate to being with you.
5. Patterns
NLP patterns for seduction involve the use of language to bring out an emotion in the girl that is desirable given the current circumstances. An example of an NLP seduction pattern would be:
"Have you ever just met someone and almost immediately you start to feel incredibly comfortable like you've known this person forever and then as you just let the barriers drop and you let them more inside you start to naturally feel a sense of rightness, like this is meant to be."
NLP is a powerful tool of influence, and to land the girl of your dreams you are going to want to use all the tools at your disposal to maximise your chances. Work on the above techniques and your newfound success with women will surprise and delight you!
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Is your house or apartment romance ready for seducing single women by using seductive lighting? Let me explain what I mean:
When you have a girl come over to your place you need to make sure that it is romantically ready with seductive and soft lighting. To make sure your place has seductive lighting, take these steps:
Replace all your 100 and 75 watt light bulbs with soft 40 watt bulbs. Those bright 100 watt bulbs will tend to make your date feel more tense. You want just the opposite effect in making her feel relaxed and receptive to your romantic advances towards her.
If possible, replace all your light switches with dimmer switches. This gives you the ultimate control of creating a soft and romantic atmosphere for seducing your date.
Of course, the ultimate lighting for romance, is a roaring fireplace. If you have one, always use it! Even in the summer - just lower the thermostat on your A/C. What I buy is the artificial logs. They make a nice romantic fire quickly.
Last but not least, is the ever popular way of creating romance is with the use of candles. Trust me guys, women love candlelight and it's a great way to get them turned on and ready for intimacy.
Copyright baLooT Inc 2007. Read More......In "Basic Instinct," Sharon Stone crosses her legs and reveals her "woman-hood" all for her employee and the world to see. That scene became one of the most memorable moments in entertainment history and is only one of the thousands seduction scenes we see in movies today.
The thing is what they do in the movies, you can also do in real life. But before you exert any effort, you have to make sure that the person you are going to seduce deserves it. Trust your instincts. Is he or she worth seducing?
Before you seduce anybody, make sure that you are confident. Are you happy with how you look and how you dress? How are you in making conversation? If you have a couple of problems in those areas, work on it first. If you feel confident with your looks, your brains and your skills, then that's when you start seducing.
Seduction can come in any form. It can be through eye contact or during conversations. First, eye contact. Just by looking at a person with a 'come hither' expression, if he or she is not dense, then you will be able to get your point across.
Next, conversation. How much of it should be about you and about the other person? If you talk about yourself, choose some areas that could boost you to him or her? If you ride horses, bring that up, then leave some to the imagination.
For some, the excitement from seduction is more on the chase. It is the thrill you get in enticing that person to come to you. For men, this is a turn on for them. Just the thought of wanting someone and pursuing them is exciting enough.
If you are to seduce an object of your affection, make it a point that the two of you will be alone at the right time and at the right place. Better if that will be the case for a long period of time. There are situations wherein your subject is in the same place as you. Take for example, a colleague from work. Now that adds more to the thrill – especially if he or she is throwing signs right back at you. If you are sure that the attraction is mutual and there is flirting, then it would only add up to your arousal.
Do not rush it. Relish it.
Sometimes though, we get carried away by our own delusions that we convince ourselves they are interested when in fact they are not. There are clues you should watch out for such as body language. Look at their eyes. Eyes are not only the mirrors to one's soul. It could also be the mirrors to one's heart or loin. Whichever, eyes are the give-away if he or she is into you. Trust your instincts. Compare how he or she talks to you? Is it different from how he or she talks to others?
Flirt – but not too much. When seducing our subjects, flirting is necessary. But once we go overboard – it can be a turn-off, especially if women do the first move. However, a man still wants to be re-assured that a woman is interested. It will only encourage him to pursue her more. For women, play 'getable-when-worked-for' instead of 'hard-to-get.'
You have to get your intentions clear. If the attraction is just sex, then let it be just about sex. No strings attached. But if a party (most of the time, it's the woman) wants to bring it up to another level, then it is better to talk about it.
Seduction is also a two-way street. If one of you is not interested, then the other may be rejected. But if there is hope to this flirtation, then surrender. Give in to your pleasures and act out those desires.
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If you've never experienced success in the seduction department out in the real world, your luck just might change in the cyber arena.
NEWBIES BE WARNED
Before we move on to cyber seduction tips, it's imperative that newbies be warned about expecting too much from their first attempt. While it's quite possible for you to strike gold at the first try, it's also possible for you to fail. Nevertheless, don't beat yourself too much about it. It's your first time, so cut yourself some slack. Practice makes perfect and as long as you follow our tips to the letter, you're sure to get lucky sooner than you think!
STRIKING A BALANCE BETWEEN REALITY AND FANTASY
Have you ever fantasized about becoming the life of the party if only you were more lively, open, interesting, yada, yada? With cyber seduction, your fantasies have the opportunity to come true! The physical barriers between you and your cyber date allow you to eliminate inhibitions and insecurities that a live date would never permit you to forget.
Remember, however, that what we're advising you to do is just to let the real "you" out: the person of interest under the layers of shyness and drab clothing. We're not, however, advising you to become someone you're truly not. If you pretend to be someone else, whatever success your cyber seduction ploy gains is merely an illusion.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO BECOME TOO FUNNY, TOO SEXY, OR TOO EVERYTHING
Let yourself shine! This may probably be the only opportunity you have to impress a date without risking live embarrassment. Crack that joke you've always known would make people laugh. Say those sexy words you're sure would turn your date on. Don't let this opportunity go to waste!
TIMING IS STILL CRITICAL
Even if it's still just a cyber date where no sun or moon rises and indicates the passage of time, you still have to be disciplined and patient enough to let nature takes it course between the two of you. Even if you think you've already met the one you wish to spend the rest of your life with, it doesn't necessarily mean that the other person feels the same. Give both of yourselves time to know and fall for each other more.
FRIENDSHIP IS SEDUCTIVE
Sometimes, people go online looking for friendship or simply for someone to talk to. The lure of great companionship and meaningful conversation is too seductive to resist for most people. Thus, make sure that you don't concentrate your whole mind on becoming sexy and funny. You have to make an effort to become understanding and sympathetic as well.
MAKE USE OF ONLINE RESOURCES
What's the use of having a cyber date if you don't take advantage of all the free resources provided by the Internet? Change the backdrop of your chat window, add music, and use lovely font if you think it can help. Invite your date to visit websites, participate in quizzes, and do other stuff online that you're sure would give both yourselves a lovely time.
ONE LAST WARNING TO ALL
Contrary to popular belief, women have double standards as well with regard to people they're dating online or offline. For men, naughty hot girls are for play while elegant chicks are ones they can bring home to momma. For women, what their hearts hunger for is sometimes different from what their brains are telling them to go after. Consequently, what role do you want to play: angel or devil? This will ensure that you're entertaining no illusions when your cyber seduction success becomes successful.
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by Ron Louis & David Copeland
In this article we will explore the devastating effects of being nervous around women, and we'll offer some tips on how you can relax and communicate a relaxed and confident image to women.
How many of you struggle with feeling nervous, scared and anxious around women? Out of the thousands of men we've worked with nearly every guy struggles with anxiety. Most guys feel fear when approaching a woman, and guess what? It shows! When you feel scared, the woman senses it, sees it, feels it, and your chances of success go right into the toilet.
Can we make you super calm, cool, and relaxed overnight? No way. Fear and nervousness are part of being a seducer. Fear is a natural response when doing anything exciting -- rock stars feel afraid before walking out on stage, athletes before starting a game, and amazing seducers feel it before approaching a woman. What separates successful people from unsuccessful people is that successful people learn how to utilize the POWER of their fear and use it to propel them into ACTION. Unsuccessful people become paralyzed by fear and fear becomes something that continually knocks them out of the game.
Fear and anxiety, in fact, can impact every aspect of succeeding with women. Not only can you feel nervous inside, but you also telegraph anxiety in your body movements, in the speed and way you speak, and in your general presence around women. So, we're going to recommend some ways to act around women and some ways NOT to act around women. Even if you can only partially implement these suggestions -- your game will greatly improve with women. If not, you're likely to end up just another Boring Nervous Bonehead.
Boring Nervous Boneheads (BNBs) tend to move too quickly. When you feel pressure to approach and talk to a hot babe, your mind, in response, starts to speed up, and pretty soon you have created even more anxiety and it is even harder to make the actual approach. As you speed up, your heart rate then increases, your breathing becomes shallower, and pretty soon you've really freaked yourself out and the chances of success continue to plummet. And then you've again become... just another BNB.
Here are some things you can start doing TODAY to greatly increase your game and help you to more fully get in the game, feel better about yourself, and help you think more clearly and effectively on your feet.
Mindset
If we could listen in to the inner dialog of a BNB we'd hear all sorts of scary stuff. We'd hear someone telling themselves over and over that they are not good enough, that they can never succeed with women, that everyone else can learn from Ron and David -- why can't they? We'd likely hear someone saying over and over, "I can't approach her. I just feel too scared." We would likely hear loads of other negative self-critical talk. And after hearing these yucky things the BNB tells himself over and over, there would be no surprise in watching him fail as he approached women over the course of an evening, a week, a month, or even a year.
The BNB scares himself half to death each time he approaches a woman, rather than consistently working on his mindset to create more confidence. Instead of examining and challenging his limiting beliefs, his fears and concerns, the BNB becomes a victim to his own self-imposed prison.
The successful seducer, however, works for weeks, months, or even years to improve his confidence and feelings of self worth. The successful seducer works on projecting confidence, self-acceptance, strength and openness. The successful seducer consciously works on changing his inner dialog to play the messages that are empowering, not limiting.
Talking Too Fast
The Boring Nervous Bonehead simply talks too damn fast. When approaching a woman for the first time, the BNB talks so fast that she can hardly understand what he is saying. The BNB projects fear from the moment he opens his mouth, and the woman therefore has no doubt that he's just another BNB and blows him off immediately. The successful seducer is able to enunciate when he speaks and he talks slowly enough so that the woman can clearly understand him.
The successful seducer is not in a hurry when talks to women. He feels comfortable enough to leave space in the conversation for silences. The successful seducer enjoys the tension of silence.
The successful seducer takes his time when talking to women so that he can connect with her and he can keep himself in a calm frame of mind. Starting today, when you approach a woman slow down your speed when speaking.
Nervous Movements
There are a host of movements we all do when we're nervous. And to make matters worse, the more nervous movements you make around a woman the more nervous you will feel inside. Start to become aware of how you do these movements and work on eradicating them from your repertoire.
Specifically, a BNB does thing like moving his hands around like a crazy person when he speaks. The BNB fidgets because he is so nervous. He also makes jagged motions that seem unnatural. Jagged motions tend to convey someone who is stiff and tense. Worst of all, the BNB avoids eye contact with women. He's afraid to take the risk of facing a woman, looking into her eyes, and having her know that he is checking her out.
How does the master seducer move? He moves in a graceful manner, not in wild and crazy hand gestures. A relaxed seducer seems like he's out talking to a friend, not trying to bust out some huge sex moves on women. The confident seducer can just enjoy interacting with women at any stage of the game and his body posture and motions display his level of comfort.
Trying Too Hard
The BNB feels he has to win women over, and does so by trying too hard. He comes across more like a used car salesman than a seductive guy. As we mention in "How to Talk to Women", the Extroverted Communicator tends to compensate for fear by talking too much and too loudly. The Introverted Communicator, however, telegraphs his fear by not talking loudly enough and by being too scared to keep initiating conversations with the woman.
The BNB shows that he is trying too hard with women by constantly nodding his head up and down in a "yes" motion when he talks to women, as if this will have some subtle impact on her being in a "yes" sort of mood. He might also frequently say, "Yea, I know just what you mean." Or, "right." Or he will say, "yes", or "ya know." These are all ways to look to her for validation. One sure-fire sign of a BNB is that he looks for validation from women. Guys who seek women's approval tend to become miserable failures with women and tend to forever spin their wheels due to a lack of confidence.
Not Taking Enough Risks
By definition BNBs are BORING! They ask boring questions, they do predictable things, and they take very few actual risks with women. BNBs act like every other guy does and do nothing to stand out. The BNB is so amazed when a woman does actually reciprocate in a conversation that he becomes a submissive puppy dog.
The BNB tends to supplicate to a woman when he first meets her, rather than risk slowing down more, and demanding MORE from both her and him. The BNB settles for his own wimpy behavior to NOT push things harder and to not share his romantic and sexual side with women.
The confident seducer takes risks when interacting and talking to women. The confident seducer challenges women when talking. He moves his body in close to a woman when talking and risks upsetting her. The confident seducer takes conversational risks by bringing up controversial subjects and pushing both touch and humor to the line. The confident seducer also pushes himself to do things that are uncomfortable to both challenge his own sense of fear and to get outside of his own comfort zone.
In closing, you can start TODAY to attack these problems and to actively go out and work on yourself as a seducer. You do this by being out in the field, interacting with women, and putting in the corrections to never again be just another BNB. If you work on the skills put forth today, you will greatly improve your life as a seducer, feel a greater sense of confidence, have more fun with women, and find yourself succeeding at greater levels than you have before.
Good Luck from baLooT Inc
