Information compiled from an online dating service explains that many male singles choose dating older women over younger women. Access to such information can be found on any online dating service that contains male heterosexual members. The Australian online dating service that helped compile this article shared some interesting results based on its male members profiles. Our article also gives females some food for thought into the minds of many of today's male singles. Sorry girls, we are not offering open ended secrets into the how and why of how men think ( Ill bet you wish we could though ), instead an emerging trend that is evolving in the style of lady many guys are seeking.
Our findings were based on 2000 male profiles. Our study was based on men between 18-45 years of age. The profiles we used were for men who were searching out a long term or serious romance. Our results do not indicate male singles whose profiles indicated they were only looking for casual sex or who were into serial dating. Statistics for men who wanted short term relationships vary from the statistics for males looking long term love......
Over 60% of the profiles we researched were low income earners and indicated that they would prefer to meet a female long term partner who is up to 10 years older. This same group of men suggested in their profiles that they would like to meet an older women who is financially secure and they would be willing to let their cougar take the leading role in a relationship if there was financial stability. Visitors to free online dating and singles services are also common in this demographic of male singles. The profiles we used in our findings found that financial security was the main priority for many. Free online dating and chat services were considered a logical avenue for finding singles given that there are no subscriptions. The men used in our study often concluded that the way to find financial stability and love could be rolled up into one package by pursuing ladies who are financially successful which often meant someone older and experienced.
Interestingly, nearly half of this same group of male singles had little or no female companionship in their younger years for different reasons ie: Did not have a mother or sister/s who were available to maintain or influence their upbringing, and subconsciously looked for this in later life by way of a more mature and nurturing type romantic partner. Male singles in this group were also found to have a submissive nature. They were content to be given orders by their female partner and to have the less dominate role in the relationship.
Whilst we have no access to statistics to substantiate how much this trend has evolved over the last 20 years a theory which is evident is that the progression of women's equality now givens women more choice and freedom that men have always had. Whilst historically women have played a submissive role in relationships, many males are keen to take up this role.
Comparing the other 40% of male singles in our group who are on higher incomes, half of these profiles indicated that they were interested in a long term romance with an older women. This group of men felt more secure than their smaller income counterparts as their high salaries provided security for them.
Not surprisingly, out of the entire group of male singles who were interested in finding older women, 70% of this group indicated a more experienced sexual partner was also a deciding factor in choosing an older women.
The main conclusion that resulted from this research was that the tide now seems to be turning in the singles and dating arena for certain groups. Many female singles are in control of their future and are no longer counting on men to show them the way.
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Australian Online Dating Site Tells Why So Many Men Are Attracted to Older Women
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With special events like Valentine's Day coming and going each year, I am reminded how difficult it can be to retain your spirit of who you are when you're a Christian single.
It just sometimes feels like it would be easier to mold yourself into whatever your dating partners want, and then you can get on with living happily ever after.
Become what other people want you to be, date non Christians, etc.
I was recently reminded of this when I met up with a friend for coffee. As energetic, bubby, positive, social, million-miles an hour type of Christian girl, she was telling me about her new
boyfriend. They had moved in together, he didn't like to socialize, he was quiet and reserved, and all they did was watch TV......
They didn't even put up a Christmas tree or lights this past holiday season, because he thought it was all a waste of time. This from my friend who usually wears a Santa hat for the
entire month of December.
As we chatted, she kept justifying all of the things that they obviously didn't have in common. I then noticed her usually dancing eyes had lost their shine.
How sad, I thought. Why had she given up on her spirit?
During my many years of single life, I attended a workshop where one of the exercises was to write done all of the things that we were looking for in a partner. But in order to do that,
we first had to write down all of the things that defined us as people.
This prompted an amazing series of Soul searching questions.
1. What did I believe in?
2. What role did God play in my life?
3. What were my values?
4. What was important to me?
5. On career, did I work to live, or live to work?
6. What did I do for fun?
7. What hobbies did I have?
8. What offended me?
9. What did I consider to be right and wrong, moral and immoral, ethical and unethical?
10. What were my politics?
11. What were my dreams?
12. What goals did I have?
13. What about my family and the desire for more kids?
14. What charities and causes did I support?
By defining what I wanted in another person, I was first clarifying and refining my own self image and my own spirit.
I developed a vision of my Christian singles partner, based on my own definition of what my spirit was (as opposed to the other way around).
I became more and more committed to sustaining my spirit while searching for a partner. As it turned out, when my spirit was challenged by some of the people I dated (if they weren't
Christian or if we clashed on any of the answers to the questions above), I had the confidence and inner conviction to politely say good-bye and move onto the next person.
It still took me a long time to find the right person (or rather, she found me). I still had to suffer through a few more Valentine's Days, which always reminded me of my singleness. Yet, I came to realize that it had never been more important to know what I stood for.
You too can do the same. Answer those questions above and understand what you stand for.
Then you can continue your search for like-minded people. The Internet and website personals speeds that whole process up for you, letting you refine your search by specific age ranges, kids or not, divorced or not, white, black, location, income level, career path, values, etc.
Your spirit will truly sing when you start getting to know like-minded people.
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I made the decision a few years ago that I needed to get the area of my life 'handled' called 'dealing with women'. So I made a decision and a commitment to myself and my best friend that I would do whatever it took to learn and 'figure this out'.
Some background: The girlfriends that I had in the past were mostly from luck now that I reflect on it. They were there, and I felt lucky to have them as my girlfriend at the time.
But I never knew how to approach women I didn't know, and I could sit in a bar for three hours making eye contact with a woman and never have the nerve to go talk to her. Right now I'm just turning 30, and I'm about 5'10" and 160 pounds. I think I'm reasonably good looking, but I've never been the kind of guy that women just walk up and approach. (I say this to give you a frame of reference in relationship to the comments I make relating to looks, etc.) I've made myself more attractive by paying attention, learning, and using what works......
When I made the decision to get this part of my life handled, I decided that instead of trying to start with an angle (working at a strip club, becoming famous for something, etc.) that I would like to learn in a way that gave me power to act with just my personality and presentation. In other words, I wanted to make this part of who I was rather than a 'trick'.
I have a rule of thumb in life that I use... it takes about 2-4 years just to get 'good' at something. And I mean JUST TO GET GOOD. Think martial arts, playing an instrument... anything.
Sure, you can have some success and fun while learning, but experience has shown me that to really 'get' something and to be able to use it in many contexts successfully, you need to apply yourself for 2-4 years.
THEN, I think it takes another 2-4 years to become a 'master' of whatever you're doing.
At the 10+ year level is usually where the Genius level really kicks in... My point here is to say that I've been applying myself for a few years now, and I am now at the point where I feel confident and in control around women. I encourage you to make this a long-term commitment rather than just trying to get an instant cure. It will be worth it in the long run.
If you're just plain lazy and want a shortcut, go ahead and try all of them. But you'll most likely find, like most others do, that massive success with this material takes practice, effort, and a commitment.
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Ohhh boys are you going to love this one. I came across a very cool article in the Sunday telegraph called "Art of picking up women" that was talking about Attraction Coaches. Now what was this article about?
Lets see ...
The aim? An experiment - to see if these so called attraction coaches could talk the talk and walk the walk.
The results? Seconds later they were surrounded by attractive women who were hanging off their every word.
Who wants a piece of that? Well guess what? They even got your average joe guy taught him some tricks of the trade and within a couple of hours they had turned the average guy into a complete chick magnet as well.
Average Joe last words " I think they have created a monster" lol - love it!
Ironic? maybe ... strange?? who knows ... possible? Absolutely!
This post explains what happens in real life. Look guys I hear you! I know you've been trying. You just haven't been trying the right things! LoL But I don't want to bruise the ego, because I know .. that no one likes that. I guess you cant blame anyone because the only person that taught you how to act around women .. was your mother. And she probably wasn't the best on to listen to ... in the attraction department......
When I talk about attraction. I don't mean being a complete sleaze, A**hole, or player. Its just some simple skills that you can put in replacement of all the other skills that you have been told work .. but really don't.
Here are some key tips for the guys which work real wonders with chicks.
Be unapologetic for your desire as a man - Girls like their men to be masculine, to have presence and to know who and what they are.
Be well groomed and pay attention to the details - Girls actually do like guys that take care of themselves. They pay attention to these things. And hey if you are a guy and you are wearing stuff that makes you feel much more confident isn't it a win win situation?
Your personality is the most powerful asset in creating attraction - Too man guys focus too much time and energy on what car they drive and what job they have. They think the better those things are then the more a chick will like them. The truth is I would rather date a more average type of guy with an amazing personality, then some slick guy who's personality is similar to that of a brick wall .... but hey maybe that's just me.
Give her sincere compliments on something other than her looks - like I said before in one of my posts. You want to differentiate yourself from the rest of the pack. You do this by giving a smart girls compliments on her looks. And a good looking girl a compliment on her brains. Lol. The main thing to remember is to compliment her on something that she normally wouldn't be acknowledged for.
Focus on conversation on emotional topics, staying away from discussing facts - This is really important. Because a lot of nice guys get stuck into serious conversations too fast, too soon. This kind of can kill the cocky funny mood. So you really want to touch on subjects that you can have a lot of fun with and use against her ...
Learn to be physically playful - Using it in a stylish manner will help break down barriers. Omg I can not stress this one enough. You have to move through that touch barrier ASAP. Touch the small of her back or her shoulder. Girls actually really like this and it helps you move past the .. lets just be friends barrier. This SHOWS interest. Showing interest through body language is a much more powerful means of communicating attraction over talking.
Know when to take charge and constantly lead her - Girls really like to be able to sit back and not have to think. They really like it when the guy knows what to do and what to say and how to act. Its shows that he is competent and capable and this is a very attractive quality. This also goes along with the fact that you can't agree to all the suggestions she has. That you have to make more of your own and then follow through on that.
Its NOT OK to be sexually needy, buts its OK to be sexual - This is one of the most effective means to create attraction. Word play makes the conversation fun, challenging and very interesting for both sexes.
Be proactive and live your life - This is important so that you are able to be a whole and complete person before you engage with girls. They want you to be your own person. Because the more complete you are as a person the more this radiates competence, confidence and esteem. And chicks .. well we just find that really HOT.
When learning how to attract chicks there really is a lot of focus on personal development. On uncovering beliefs within yourself that have been holding you back. Especially with things to do with rejection. Once you are able to overcome these barriers and be like rock on the inside your esteems will no longer be affected by your outcomes with girls. Not only will you have more success with girls, but more success with your life in general.
Girls if you have ever wondered why you have been attracted to some guy and haven't seemed to figure it out. Well I just gave you a list of reasons there. Its now up to you to recognize when a guy is using this against you and see if he is worth your time.
For the guys .. well most chicks aren't that smart and they wont know what hit them. Use some of these skills to gain their attention .. and that way you will at least have the chance to talk to them .. rather than getting the usual bitchy look, crossed arms and rolling of eyes.
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You Can Learn to Be a Player! - The Art of Attraction
Telling a girl that you like her is something that the most macho of men fear. Of course, emotions can take over your logic & your actions as well. No matter what, you must be prepared mentally before you do anything at all.
Why not we start with some ways that totally will not work! Email, instant messenger, phone, letters, teddy bears, etc, these will not work. In this special case, you are about to express an important message to the woman you like, you must tell her face to face.
Never even attempt to ask her if she likes you! That is still not the worse thing you can ask. There was a friend of mine who asked a girl if he could kiss her! That really cracked me up! Can you imagine that?....
Now, put yourself in a woman's shoes, if you ask such dumb questions, how can she answer you? If she says yes to you, she will appear too cheap but if she really does like you & does not want to reject you, how is she supposed to tell you?
This is usually followed by the sound of silence..... An awkward silence between a man & a woman is what you do not want to experience for yourself.
It is no secret that women are attracted by the confidence of a man. Confidence only shows that a man is totally secure with himself which is really attractive to a woman. Those questions above will only make you look pathetic in front of her.
Do not ask too much or say too much, just bring your relationship to the next level, she will flow with you, if she likes you too.
Now for the most important part, how to tell her.....
- Your delivery method, the way you communicate with her, is even be more important than what you are about to tell her, especially in this special case.
- You must be at least 70% sure that she is also likes you before you tell her, you must tell her at the right time.
- Ambience is very important, especially to women, make sure it is a nice, romantic place.
Whatever happens next, just remember it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
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Telling A Girl You Like Her - Ways To Tell A Girl You Like Her
This week I want to talk about compliments. You should always make it a point to dish out compliments when you're with a woman. They must be sincere and expressed like you mean it.
There are taboo compliments you must never use when you are on a first date or just getting to know a woman. Don't use any sexual compliments such as:
You sure have a nice booty.
You sure have beautiful boobs.
You sure have a sexy body.
You sure have a nice long sexy tongue.
Are your boobs your own? They sure look real......
I'm sure you get the point. These suggestive compliments will only offend her.
Let me let you in on a secret that will help you win with single women in the romance department. The secret is using the following compliment on women that you're with: Just simply tell her, "You have the prettiest eyes I've ever seen." Women love to be complimented on their eyes. Just be sure to say it like you mean it and look at her squarely in the eyes with a smile on your face when you say it.
Follow my advice guys. From now on be sure and compliment women on their eyes first instead of her body parts, personality, sense of humor, or intelligence. You will make a much more favorable impression on her by complimenting her eyes. You could also compliments their lips or even their eyebrows, etc. I personally like to compliments a woman's feet.
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How To Say The Right Compliments To Attract Single Women
You're single, we know.
You may have a habit of being single and not liking your status too much.
Maybe you're sick of hearing when you'll get married, or why you're not dating and you feel like you have a case of Single SARS.
If you're the kind who's not OK with being single, sit at home and complain about why men can't seem to get into you then I'm sorry but you're not the kind of friend that I want to have in my life.
Because you'll pull me into your self obsessed world of self pity and I can't afford to go there.
See, my birthday is next week (May 22) and I feel like a natural woman, all without having a poor me I'll never find anyone outlook on life.
Oh, by the way, send me a shout out on May 22, won't you? Let me know when your birthday is too so I can celebrate how amazing you are!
OK, back to my topic......
Being single is not a disease unless you make it one and you've got to think about whether you're truly running from having to give up your self obsessed single status - you know, not having the attention of folks asking you about being single.
Because men will respond to how you think and feel about yourself. It will come across in the way you talk and how you carry yourself.
If you haven't dated in a while, then it's time to go out there and get to learn more about yourself and how you respond to men.
Even if you're not looking for anything serious yet, you still need to get off the couch.
If you really don't know what the heck I'm taking about, then sorry, I guess I can't help you see that you deserve to go out and have fabulous fun while spreading the love and making a difference in someone's life.
And the best part is, you don't have to be a friend with benefits, you can do it all and still be a woman with class.
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Picking up women sometimes comes down to specific seduction techniques. If you want increase your chances of attracting and seducing a woman, then you should learn about quality routines to use on girls. Picking up women is not easy but it is not difficult either. You just have to know what the right thing to do is.
Woman desire men who pay attention to detail, especially woman who are beautiful. Woman need to feel wanted and needed. They need to feel that they are the only one for you......
But they vital key to seduce women is confidence. Confidence indicates that you are successful and are to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Confidence and Cockiness are two things that women find irresistible. If you are confident in yourself a woman can see that and will be drawn to that. Confident men understand this is all part of the game, and take it in stride. Whatever you do, don't let a rejection get under your skin.
Confident men understand this is all part of the game, and take it in stride. Whatever you do, don't let a rejection get under your skin.
Success only came when you stop worrying about how to attract women. Instead, you should worry about how to be happy with yourself. Success is not a get rich quick scheme and will not happen over night. It takes time and hard work to get your seduction plan up and running. Success generally comes with simple approach.
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Why Is So Difficult To Seduce Women These Days?
Girls won't ask you to hug them, kiss them or whatever even if they want you to. So don't be shy! Girls are not like guys. You piss a guy off after 5 minutes you'll be back laughing and talking again. If you are trying to become a seducer you must completely change your mindset. Don't be afraid of being to cocky or anything like that. Most guys fear approaching women because of lack of knowledge.
Fear is a lack of knowledge and with the right strategy you will be more confident. Learning what to say with the power of persuasion, is very effective. Fear is a deficiency of learning and with the right strategy you will be more confident. Learning what to say with the power of persuasion, is very effective.
Now to become more confident do this. Pick someone who you know who is very successful with women. It can be a person in real life, or someone on television and observe how he acts and copy him. It works every time, you will start to act in a more confident manner......
Picking up women sometimes comes down to specific seduction techniques. If you want increase your chances of attracting and seducing a woman, then you should learn about quality routines to use on girls, but if you are starting in this game, its better for you to stick with the basic technique above.
Another good thing you must do is to ask good questions- Many guys think a conversation involves "interview" type questions like "Where are you from?" or "Where do you work?" Instead of doing this, you should ask interesting questions which she's never heard before. My best advice is to write down and memorize a bunch of questions which will spark a great conversation. Ask gentle questions about her sexual history. Don't ask her "How many times have you had sex?".But you may feel comfortable enough to ask her if she's ever done it in daring places, or on a dare, or with someone who's name she didn't know.
I hope that these simple guidelines can help you in your seduction journey. Never stop learning and you will succeed.
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Don't Be Afraid Of Being To Cocky With Women
Dating site trolls, creepy sex texters and instant messaging prowlers beware!
A crew may be waiting on the sidelines to bust you at your next stroke of the keyboard or dial pad button.
It's not hard to imagine this on the horizon, so don't say we didn't warn you. With the ever-increasing popularity of Dateline NBC's series "To Catch a Predator" we envision that this next extension in the line up of undercover sting investigation programs will follow a similar format, only this time the hidden camera will be honing in on romance unabashed romance seekers or interlopers.
"I can deal with over-the-top flirting or dirty cyber talk with someone that I know and trust" says Stephanie a SingleEdition.com reader. "But it's a whole other ballgame when you receive an instant message from an AOL stranger seeking sex talk, or better yet the booty call at 2:00 in the morning, They have got to be joking!"
Unfortunately most of the time they are not. With more than 73% of single adults online, many of whom are searching for friendship and/or love, the indiscriminate messaging can be unsettling, and chicanery can cause long term emotional bruising. Take 34 year old Jason, who thought he had met a long term companion, until one of his friends spotted her actively casting her net on three other dating sites. And with mobile technology making anywhere, anytime dating and relating an option, there is no foreseeable end in sight......
Individuals are far less inhibited and more willing to take chances when there is no one in front of them. Plus the chances of getting caught or being taken up on an offer are so unlikely that many people are willing to push the limits. The problem, according to experts, starts when individuals longing for intimacy and emotional connectedness start lurking and leering compulsively.
So while there are no set plans, To Catch a Pervert seems ripe for a spinoff. Here's how you can keep yourself off of the watch list:
1. Set Realistic Boundaries: One online dating profile means you're putting yourself out there; two to three lets them know you are actively searching. Anything more is a red pervert alert.
2. Know Your Audience: Remember. Asianfriendfinders is for Asians, Jdate is for Jews, PrimeSingles for baby boomers and SingleParentDating for non-married single parents. If you do not match the criteria, but have a fetish for those who do, come clean in your profile.
3. Cover your tracks: If you spend more than 2 hours a day on a particular dating site, have clicked on a single person's profile more than seven times in the last hour, or been out on more than 3 dates with someone(s) within a community, be sure to deactivate the setting which lets others know when, how often and what you do when you are online.
4. Be Sensitive to Timing: Do not instant message your prospect(s) seconds after they appear on your buddy list, especially during daytime office hours.
5. Limit ALL CAPS usage: Keep your voice down, shouting at a stranger is the sign of an angry lunatic.
6. Save the Sex Texts: SMS should be avoided until there has been at least one date whether it's virtual or real.
And finally, remember, friends don't let friends ping drunk. If you have had one too many, hand over your keys and your cell phone.
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Over The Top High Tech Flirting
The next day, I was ranting to a co-worker about the diva dorks, as my girlfriend and I had dubbed them, when I blurted in frustration, "What gives someone the nerve to do such a thing?!" My co-worker informed me that these two cads are what many single men refer to as cougar hunters. Perplexed, I asked the question that has sent me on an anti-aging campaign like none other experienced by a thirty- year- old woman......
A cougar hunter, if you didn't already know, is a younger man seeking the affections (and probably financial support) of an older (older being defined as thirty something) woman. If these boys were cougar hunters, then their attack made me a cougar. Outraged, I shouted, "What? I just turned thirty!" My co-worker shrugged his shoulders and left me wondering, what makes someone a cougar? Do women turn thirty and suddenly become desperate prey? After a little more investigating, I learned more about cougars. I learned that I can safely say I am not a cougar (thank you very much) and there are some tell tale signs that you are, in fact, a cougar.
So, if the term doesn't sit well with you either, read on. Make sure you don't get confused with these catty women, and fend off sweet smelling boys wearing designer labels.
You know you're a cougar when:
1. You order a drink for the singer on stage and send it up with a note to meet you after the show.
2. You always walk into a restaurant/bar/room seeking the young single guys.
3. You offer to pay for your beau's vacation/dinner/rent/car payment.
4. You pinch the adorable waiter's butt as he passes by.
5. You ask the bartender to take a shot off of your belly, but when you lift your shirt, the bar sees your waist enhancing pantyhose.
6. You show your breasts at Mardi gras and no one looks, or if they do, they snicker.
7. You ask the valet boy to meet you in your room in an hour flat to "help you with something"
8. You whisper that you are naughty into the ears of a stranger hoping he will ask for demonstrations.
9. Announce that the next person in a bar to buy you a drink gets a trip to the Bahamas.
10. You date someone more than fifteen years your junior (I know, double standards stink... we'll come up with a good name for old men and young girls.... How about gorillas?)
11. You wink at the pool boy/ busboy/ any title ending in "boy"
12. You fantasize about the young boys on the O.C or MTV or the Jonas Brothers and you are over thirty.
After the research, I'm not sure how I was mistaken for a cougar. Perhaps it was my newly discovered wrinkle under my right eye. Perhaps it was my high heeled shoes. Perhaps it was my roaming eyes looking for a waiter. I can't be certain, but the mistake was made, and my perspective on aging is considerably less positive today for it. Although, there are worse things a woman could be called, a cougar is certainly not the most positive. I don't want to stifle anyone's sexual preferences (or means of obtaining those preferences) however, I just thought, if this derogatory title was news to me, it might be news to others as well.
So, thirty something and over ladies out there; wear eye cream, drink water, and keep your eyes on your dinner mates, lest you be confused with a prowling feline carnivore.
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First of all, it doesn't offer a free trial. Or if it does, it wants to secure your credit or debit card number before you can set up your profile.
From what I've learned, if your free trial isn't cancelled within the 14 day trial period your credit or debit card is billed for either a 30, 60, or 90 day membership.
Even though you tried to cancel, you never received a response. In order for them to refund your money, you will have to prove you tried to cancel. Good luck with this one...
During your free trial you notice your search options are very limited. If a dating site will not allow you to search by last log in date, age, height/build, religion, or occupation this is not the dating site for you. They are taking away your right to choose. You may be totally opposed to getting involved with someone within a certain occupation. By not being able to determine their occupation in advance, you are putting yourself into a position that will waste your time, and the time of others.
By not being able to search by last log in date, you will find yourself sending emails to members that haven't logged in, in months. But you have no way of knowing that. You will just assume they aren't even interested in you enough to respond to the initial email!
That can be hard on the ego!
Any site that will damage your ego is not the dating site for you! Go find the one for you...! Your choices are absolutely endless!
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We know that online we have access to millions of eligible singles. Of course, we always want to increase our online results. There are simple, guaranteed ways to do this. Stop dreaming about "The One"... pull your dreams into reality! Let me share tools that will make your online dating experience fun and exciting, yet safe. (It's true...I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx...) For a limited time only-Free Internet Dating Course ($27.00 value) http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
We want to "put our best foot forward". The best way to do this is with a very flattering photo. Make sure the quality is professional. Do not wear too much makeup or jewelry. The make up and jewelry is to "compliment" your appearance, not over shadow it!
Do not show too much "skin". The profile page is not the place for that. Trust me, you can be extremely sexy, and be covered at the same time!
You want to have an appropriate User Name. If you use a name that is crude, vulgar, and nasty? Those are the types of emails you will be getting. If that is what you want...ignore this tip and go for it!
I have seen profiles of people I found interesting, but their user name was such a turn off!
I couldn't seriously communicate with a grown man named "fuzzybunny"...maybe that is shallow of me...
I know people that use overtly sexy...actually to be honest they used down right "nasty" user names, and then they are totally appalled at the vulgar comments they received! I asked "what in the world did you expect?"
You can not increase your "positive" online results with a user name like "sex slave"!
If you can't come up with a creative name that says "Me", solicit input from family and friends.
Please keep these simple tips in mind and I have no doubt you will increase your online results.
Get started! It's time to get online and have a ball!
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Ever wonder where Christian Singles meet other single Christians for dating and/or courtship? I know some lonely Christian single guys in one of the small groups I lead who sure do. A typical question in our support group goes along these lines: "So how do I go about meeting a nice Christian girl?"
Since we we were curious ourselves (aren't you guys?), we decided to do some research on the Internet. What we found was quite interesting. For example, In 2003 American Demographics surveyed over 1500 engaged couples to find out how they found each other. Here are the results:
Top Ways Singles Meet for Dating
# Friends/Relatives...65%
# Online Dating ...20%
# Common Interest Activities...10%
# Other...5%
So what are Christian singles supposed to do with these findings?
Start by noticing that each one of the top ways singles meet other singles is through them doing something.
In Matthew 7, Jesus encourages us to practice a proactive type of faith when he stated "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened."
Of course, our Lord could answer a single Christian's simple prayer, and supernaturally drop their perfect match into their laps. That would be cool! But more often than not, He wants us to stretch our faith by putting us into a position of prayerful "seeking and knocking"....
I realize there are some Christians who feel that by their inaction they are being spiritual and submissive to the Lord's will for their lives. But our God is a God of action, and He calls us to imitate Him, as long as we do so in faith and humility.
Therefore, in light of the above singles dating survey here are some practical faith-filled steps a Christian single interested in dating could take:
Overall, putting into action the following Christian singles dating tips should help you "break the ice" toward meeting other available single Christians.
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Too often we want to approach a beautiful woman or do anything that's a little scary in life and we don't do it because we're uncertain of the outcome. We're so worried about getting the perfect desired response or outcome that we don't do anything. Part of being a confident, socially aware man is to be able to walk into any situation without worrying about the outcome. You have to be willing to step into the unknown. It's really exhilarating when you learn to do this.
The more you do it - the easier it becomes and it becomes like a high. The high you'll get from being the kind of person who's not afraid to walk up and talk to 5 or 6 beautiful women in a group is even more exciting than actually getting the girl. The thrill is that you became the kind of man who wasn't afraid of the outcome...
If you get shot down - so what!? They can't take your core from you. They can't take your heart from you. It takes heart to walk up to a group of women and put it on the line. You win just by doing it. What happens is that when you become the kind of man who's unafraid of stepping into the unknown women feel it. They'll be impressed with your courage.
Women want to be around guys who have this quality. It's like wow, "This guy has guts - he just walked into this situation." It doesn't mean you won't get rejected at times - but it's impressive either way.
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Not real: Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctively don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real". Nice guys don't want to upset the apple cart.
Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.
Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable = No excitement = No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.
Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
Fixer-Upper: Nice guys don't usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they're not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don't think their genes are good enough, so they won't misbehave.
Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that's scary.
Low self-esteem: We don't feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you're unfamiliar with.
Sex: Women feel a nice guy won't be good in bed. They like to be manhandled sometimes and think a nice guy won't be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to get the job done, even though that may not always be the case.
Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? I'm sure there are a few, but they wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot".
Charm: Nice guys don't always know what to say, and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.
Protection: Historically, men have protected women - physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren't so sure.
Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy.
Article Source: Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist, lecturer, author of "Lucia's Lessons of Love" and host of the TV Show "The Art of Love". She's appeared on The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, The KTLA Morning Show and numerous radio shows across the U.S.A., including Playboy Radio. With over 20 years experience on the relationship market, Lucia has dated men of all nationalities in six cities, four countries and two continents. Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate to dispense relationship advice - after all, in almost every dating dilemma she has been there, done that and lived to tell about it. For more information go to: http://www.lessonsoflove.netWhy Women Prefer Bad Boys
So you say you're single in Chicago? What are you going to do about it?
First things first. You have to find someone else who happens to be single in Chicago, and you have to be willing to take the steps to meet them and take them out into the town to experience everything the Chicago dating scene has to offer.
This is possibly the most important step, though, admittedly, one of the more difficult. There are more than a million singles in Chicago, so how do you find the right one?
Modern times call for modern solutions, and the Chicago online dating community is one of the best in the country. And online dating sites that offer compatibility profiles are one of the best ways to weed out the incompatibles and make the most of your time as a single in Chicago.
Now, once you've found the right person, it's time to try something new and unique. With so many opportunities in Chicago, there's no reason to let yourself get bogged down in the old standby “dinner and a movie”. When you're single in Chicago you have a very singular opportunity to experience activities, music, cuisine and a world of other possibilities that singles in other cities will never know.
You can begin your day at Millennium Park, take the time to go strolling through the landscape or pack up a blanket and food for a wonder picnic. If you're looking for something a little more active, head over to Navy Pier where you can experience everything from riding on a giant ferris wheel to watching a performance by a Shakespeare Troupe. Still not what you're looking for? Then take a day and mingle with the tourists at the Sears Tower. This is something that Chicago singles often pass up because it's seen as too “touristy”, but the view of Chicago can only really be appreciated 110 stories up. It's a great way to get the date started off right.
If these activities aren't quite your thing, consider the Chicago sports scene. Chicago is populated by some of the most loyal sports fans in the country, and if you can find someone who is single in Chicago and also loves the Bears/Bulls/Cubs/etc, the an athletically themed date may be perfect for you.
Chicago is known for some great cuisine, but often we can fall prey to complacency and routine, and always wind up at the same places over and over again. Take some time to find a new and romantic place and start creating some truly memorable dating memories. Whether at Geha's Fondue or Emperor's Choice for some Chinese food, you can find new dining experiences in Chicago.
But if what you really need is to hit the dance floor with your favorite Chicago dance partner, then this town can provide. When you're single in Chicago you can spend your evenings surrounded by 800 other people at the Crobar or experience a wide range of music at Sonotheque. There's something in this town for everyone, from techno lovers to Country swingers.
So here's the real question: With so much to do in Chicago, why would you waste your time with the mundane and standardized dates? We often do it because it's simple, quick, and fairly cheap. And While we know it won't be all that impressive of a date, we also know that it probably won't fail miserably either. Rather than try something new, where our plans may crash and burn, we opt for the “safe” option, where our plans can wallow in the shallow waters of routine. But maybe it's time to take advantage of your time as a single in Chicago and start making your dating life something spectacular.
Author: Andy Eliason is a writer at Main10. If you're single in Chicago and looking for more things to do in Chicago, visit http://HeavenlyMatched.com.
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