It's a well known fact that we reveal a lot about ourselves and our inner thoughts through our body language. People in positions of power are well taught in the art of body language - how to read it and how to use it to their best advantage. Read on and you too will learn how to be in control, how interpret female body signals to your best advantage. Then you'll know if she's enjoying your company and if she's worth pursuing further. As a hot girl I have never had trouble picking up men. In fact, I get approached everywhere I go. And when I do get talking to guys I'm not shy and I never run out of fun, interesting and enticing tings to talk about. However, having witnessed many of my male friends leave relationships wounded, with broken hearts, or never even get a foot in the door with girls, I've decided to try and help guys to whom the whole dating thing doesn't just come second nature. That's just the nice kind of girl I am. I discovered the Guy Gets Girl System through a friend of mine. When he discovered it he talked and talked about it. I was dubious at first, but I though hey it can't do any harm. He changed overnight. I saw my shy friend, who took two years to recover from a broken heart, who never dared to approach women, turn into a confident, charming, sexy guy who was suddenly the life and soul of the party. He now has a beautiful and wonderful girlfriend. He opened my eyes. I realized that so many guys out there are struggling to find a date. Some don't even dare approach beautiful women. A lot of guys seem to lack the self confidence and the self awareness to be able to approach girls, talk to them and instigate meaningful relationships. Guys this is just not on, especially when the answer is so simple. Find out more about the Guy Gets Girl System at http://www.guysgetgirlz.com and say hello to a new you. Realize your full potential.
Tip 1: observe what she's doing with her hair
Is he she playing with her then she definitely fancies you. If she is twirling it in her hands, or revealing her neck these are subconscious signals that she's into you.
Tip 2: watch her finger actions
Fingers are very closely linked with the sexual act and as such are very revealing. Watch her fingers closely. Is she starts fondling or stroking her face, neck, chest, arm, thigh or leg in your presence then she is subtly seducing you. She may not even realise she is doing it. If she if she plays with her lips, teeth or tongue that is a dead cert!......
How is her body placed in relation to yours? If she is leaning towards you, or if her legs or shoulders are pointed towards you then this is a good body language sign. She really likes you! By moving closer to you she is subtly saying that she wants to get even closer! However if her arms are crossed, or if she is leaning away from you then these may be negative body language signs. Maybe she is weary of you. Crossing the arms is a defensive stance and this reveals that she might be intimidated or put off by you.
Tip 4: look at her eye movements
If you spot a woman and she is looking at you then she looks away and then looks at you again, but with a slight downwards glance, she definitely likes you. The downward glance reveals her shyness so now would be a prime time to approach her. Look closely at her eyes. If she smiles and looks away, this is always a positive sign. If she looks into your eyes for a long time, again, you're in there. Beware however of the woman that never makes any eye contact, or one who looks away, or around her a lot. These are the signs of someone who is disinterested or bored.
Tip 5: look out for any seductive movements
These signs reveal the most about a woman's inner thoughts. She is also most likely doing these consciously, so you catch sight of any of these, count yourself lucky! Is she stroking her leg or chest, is she subtly revealing parts of her body to you? Is she dangling one shoe with her feet whilst in a crossed leg position? If she is doing any of the above she is trying to seduce you and entice you into bed.
These easy tips are invaluable in the quest to read, understand and ultimately seduce women.
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How To Read Women's Body Language - 5 Easy To Read Tips To Know If She's Into You
How To Read Women's Body Language - 5 Easy To Read Tips To Know If She's Into You
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Some body language experts claim that only about 7% of our messages to other people are communicated through the words we speak. The rest of our messages are conveyed through our body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions.
During your entire life you have been sending messages to others through your posture, gestures, and facial expressions.
Even if you never say a word, your face and body are constantly sending out messages to other people about your state of mind, your happiness, and your level of confidence.
When you were an infant, before you learned to speak, people were peering into your little baby face, looking at your gestures, and listening to your little cries and gurgles, trying to decipher what kind of mood you were in, and what you were trying to say.
And you have been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and facial expressions of the people around you all your life, even though you may not have been consciously aware of it.
What sorts of messages are you conveying to others with your body language? Does your body language encourage other people to approach you? Or do you subconsciously warn them to stay away?
How do you usually stand or sit when you are with other people? What are you doing with your hands? Where are you looking with your eyes?
Does your face express interest in the people you are with, or does your face stay a tense, stony mask?
When you are sitting or standing, do you usually cross your arms across your chest? If this is your typical way of standing or sitting, how do you think other people interpret this posture? Did you realize that most people will subconsciously interpret your arms crossed in front of your chest as a signal that you don’t want anyone to approach you? Only the bravest souls are likely to come forward when you adopt this posture.
If you stand awkwardly, with your chest slumped forward, your shoulders drooping, and your eyes avoiding everyone else, people are likely to decide you are very depressed or completely lacking in confidence. They may fear that trying to talk with you will be an awkward experience.
When you stand awkwardly, you do not project any sign that you are confident in yourself, or that you have any interest in the people around you. Instead you look like you are trying to disappear.
No matter how desperately you want someone to come over and befriend you, if your body language projects awkwardness or disinterest in others, it’s not very likely that many people will try to start a conversation with you.
If some body language signals can frighten people away, are there signals that will encourage people to come forward and approach you? Yes, you can look much more approachable to others if you adopt body language that is open and non-threatening.
Whether you are sitting or standing, aim for a posture that is upright and alert, yet relaxed. If you notice that your chest or shoulders are slumping, straighten up.
Become aware of the way you are breathing. Does your breath move in and out smoothly? Or does it move with jerky little stops and starts?
If you notice that you are holding your breath, or breathing in a shallow, jerky manner, this is a sign of anxiety. When you breathe shallowly, you have to breathe more often, which can increase your appearance of nervousness. Consciously tell all the muscles of your body to relax. Use your abdomen to help you breathe smoothly and deeply. Let the bottom part of your lungs fill up with air as well as the top.
What are you doing with your hands? If you get nervous in social situations, you may feel that no matter what you do with your hands, it’s the wrong thing. Many people who cross their arms in front of their chest are probably doing so at least in part because they don’t know where else to put their hands.
You should never cross your arms in front of your chest unless you really don’t want anybody to approach you. That is the message this gesture sends out.
If you want to look open and approachable, keep your arms at your sides, or put one hand in your pocket. If you want to hold something in one hand, keep your hand at the side of your body, and not in front of you. Holding your arm in front of your body can be seen as a signal that you want to defend yourself against other people.
Stay aware of and focused on your surroundings and the people around you. If you find yourself tuning out your surroundings, you will start to focus too much on your negative inner sensations and thoughts. This can quickly increase your anxiety to a very uncomfortable level.
What sort of facial expression should you have if you want people to approach you?
In most cases, a gentle, pleasant smile should do the trick. Too much of a smile that never softens can look forced and nervous. A pleasant smile with a twinkle in your eyes will convey the impression that chatting with you will be a pleasant experience.
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Body language is the meaning behind the words or the “unspoken” language. Surprisingly, studies show that only up to an estimated 10 percent of our communication is verbal.
The majority of the rest of communication is unspoken. This unspoken language isn’t rocket science. However, there are some generalizations or basic interpretations that can be applied to help with the understanding or translating of these unspoken meanings. Here are some basics below.
1. Smile
Women like warm smiles. Think of a heartfelt warm-fussy, maybe your favorite pet, and smile.
2. Eyes
If you don’t look a woman in the eyes while speaking, this can be interpreted as dishonesty or hiding something. Likewise, shifting eye movement or rapid changing of focus/direction can translate similarly.
If more than one woman is present in a group, look each in the eye as you speak, slowly turning to face the next with eye contact as well. Continue on so that each one has felt your warm, trusting glance. Some suggest beginning with one person and moving clockwise around the group so that no one is missed, and so that you are not darting around, seemingly glaring at people.
3. Attention Span / Attitude
Women can tell what type attitude you have by your attention span. If you quickly lose focus of what is being said, and if your attention span wanders, this shows through and makes you seem disinterested, bored, possibly even uncaring.
4. Attention Direction
If you sit or stand so that you are blocking another in the party, say someone is behind you, this can be interpreted as rude or thoughtless. So be sure to turn so that everyone is included in the conversation or angle of view, or turn gently, at ease and slowly, while talking, so that everyone is incorporated, recognized and involved in the conversation. Again some suggest the clockwise movement when working a group.
5. Arms Folded / Legs Crossed
This can be seen as defensive or an end to the conversation. So have arms hang freely or hold a glass of water, a business card or note taking instruments while communicating with women. Be open with open arms. Note: If you need to cross legs, cross at your ankles and not your knees. Sitting tightly folded up says that you are closed to communications.
6. Head Shaking
If women are shaking their heads while you speak, they are in agreement. If they are shaking, “no,” disagreement reigns in their minds.
7. Space / Distance
On the whole, women like their own personal body space. Give women room and keep out of their space. Entering to close can be intrusive and viewed as aggressive. Leaning – Sitting or standing, leaning is viewed as interest. In other words, an interested listener leans toward the speaker. Note women's body language – While you are with women, note how their bodies read. If a woman suddenly folds her arms across her chest and begins shaking her head “no,” you’ve probably lost her. You might try taking a step back and picking up where the conversation began this turn for the negative and regroup. It’s all about strategic planning!
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If you’re on a first date and you’re trying to figure out what Mr. or Ms. Potentially Right thinks about you, look downward.
Not there, silly.
“The key to a man’s heart isn’t his stomach. It’s his feet,” says Lisa Daily, author of “Stop Getting Dumped!” (Subtitle: “All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall Madly in Love With You and Marry ‘The One’ in 3 Years or Less.”)
As it turns out, the foot rule also applies to women.
“Watch the feet of the person you’re attracted to,” she tips AdamandDrew.com. “People who are attracted to each other subconsciously try to ‘line up’ with the other person. Where the toes point, the heart follows.”
When you take the Sherlock Holmes approach to reading your date, trying to sleuth out whether he/she thinks you’re hot (or not), body language is the smoking gun, my dear Watson.
“Even if we’ve got our game faces on, the body doesn’t lie,” Daily says.
In fact, studies reveal that only 7% of our communication is verbal, according to Mari Smith, a relationship coach based in San Diego, California. The other 93% is nonverbal.
Tips & Clues
Men send out the following tips when they’re interested in you, according to Daily and Smith:
* Smiling.
* Extended eye contact.
* Grooming behaviors (straightening their ties, pulling up their socks).
* Upright stance or posture.
* Standing with their chests thrust outward and shoulders back (think of a giant preening peacock).
* Ego-driven comments about their successes in life (jobs, cash, their cars).
“He may have one hand in his pocket, with his thumb sticking out, or tuck his thumbs in his belt,” Smith adds.
As for the so-called “fairer” sex, look for the following nonverbal cues from a woman:
* Extended eye contact and smiling (just like men).
* Leaning inward or toward you.
* Exposing her neck, hands or palms.
* Flipping her hair (with her hands or a twist of the head) or twirling it playfully.
* Crossing and uncrossing her legs.
* Fondling cylindrical objects like the stem of a wine glass, straw, pen or cigarette. (Paging Dr. Freud…)
“Houston, We Have a Problem”
“For both sexes, there are also signs that things are not going well,” says Daily, who notes that distasteful dates, traumatic breakups and consequent crisis periods often call for “a few Nora Ephron movies and two tubes of frozen cookie dough eaten right out of the package.”
Look for speech patterns that are wildly out of sync. “He’s a slow talker, while she’s a thousand-words-a-minute,” she says.
Defensive body language—arms crossed in front of the chest or hands subconsciously protecting the groin area.
Someone who keeps looking over your shoulder while you speak.
“When someone is not interested in you, they will typically point their body and feet away from you and position themselves at a greater distance,” Smith adds.
Saying Goodnight…or Saying Goodbye?
As your date winds down, other cues foreshadow your relationship’s future.
“If you give your date a hug on the doorstep and he or she pats you on the back, it’s a sign of discomfort,” Daily says. “The more uncomfortable your date feels, the bigger the pat. The other obvious, not-so-great sign is going in for the doorstep kiss—and getting a handshake instead.” (Ouch!)
Positive signals are much easier to read: a concrete invitation for a second date, with firm plans—not just “let’s do this again” or “I’ll call you sometime,” Daily says.
The Flirt Factor
Flirting with your date—and being on the receiving end—meets Sherlock’s criteria for irrefutable evidence that your lovely evening may evolve into a bona fide relationship.
Daily takes it one step further, asserting that flirting is “absolutely necessary.”
“Flirting is how we communicate our interest—and how we connect emotionally before we connect physically,” she says. “Generally, flirting is harmless, but it can sometimes be interpreted incorrectly by the ‘flirtee.’ The key is to pay attention to the tone of the flirtation and wait to see how the flirter responds if you try to take it up a notch. If she backs down, she was probably just flirting for fun. If she escalates the flirting in turn, she’s communicating interest.”
“Use attitude, voice and body synchronization to make others feel like they have a special rapport with you,” advises Nicholas Boothman, a communication specialist and author of “ How to Make Someone Love You Forever in 90 Minutes or Less.” He encourages those he counsels to learn to “access—and rev up—your sex appeal, without going over the top.”
Translation?
Create chemistry by mirroring your partner’s physical presence and verbal behavior.
“When you synchronize your overall body language, your tone, the speed and volume of your voice, and even the type of words you use—as well as your attitude—people feel safe, familiar and trusting with you,” he tells AdamandDrew.com.
Smith believes women have the edge—and a lot more fun—when it comes to flirting. (Sorry, guys…)
“Playful, lighthearted behavior is really the domain of women,” she says, “and typically men love it and gravitate toward the woman who looks the most fun. It certainly pays to familiarize yourself with all of the signs of attraction so you know how and when to communicate interest—and make sure you’re sending the right message!”
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It is your choice whether to listen or not listen to someone talking. You listen when needed and wanted to, but do other people see you as a good listener? Listening skills are essential for good relationships and are also a critical skill in many professions, especially the helping professions. Whether you're maintaining a happy marriage relationship, counseling someone with problems, or coaching members of your team for business success, good listening skills lead others to feel more comfortable. They will have more confidence in you and hold you in higher esteem.
You may not realize how important your body language is, when others view you. It is even more important that your words. So, what says 'good listener' and inspires in others who speak to you the confidence that you really are listening? Your body language, of course! Even if you really are listening to every word, you won't be seen as a good listener unless you have the right body language.
A poor listener has many of these traits -leans away or even turns away slightly, arms folded, maybe a bit of impatient toe tapping, and frequently looking elsewhere. Or, if someone starts to read then you know for sure they're not listening! And of course if your body language suggests you don't want to listen, the other person will feel less comfortable talking with you and will be less likely to confide in you. This is a good recipe for creating distance and miscommunication in a relationship.
A good listener shows five characteristics that can be remembered through the acronym "SOLER".
S - Square-on
Face the other person square on. If you're turned away, you won't give the impression that you want to listen.
O - Open-posture
Folded legs, and particularly folded arms can be subconscious signals that you really don't want to hear what the other person has to say.
L - Lean-towards
Lean slightly towards the other person. This indicates an interest in what they're saying. Leaning away from a person tends to indicate disinterest.
E - Eye-contact
Maintain normal eye contact with the other person. If you keep your eyes down, or keep looking away, you can give the impression that you're not a comfortable or willing listener.
R - Relax
Don't be too formal or stiff. A relaxed posture suggests that you're comfortable in the role of listener, and ready to hear everything the other person has to say.
Start practicing your listening body language and SOLER now, and you will see the improvement of your interpersonal skill and relationships both on and off your job.
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You've probably heard the expressions before.. "Chin up, shoulders back," "Keep your distance," "Feet on the ground," "Pain in the neck." But have you ever wondered how they came about? It all has to do with Body Language.
Simply put, body language is the unspoken communication we all use in every face-to-face encounter with other human beings. You could say it's more powerful than anything said aloud. Ninety-three per cent of our everyday communications is non-verbal. Only 7% has to do with words at all. You could be telling that other person much more with your body language than you would ever say in words.
Determining and regulating your own body language could well mean the difference when it comes to job interviews, networking meetings, banquets and business dinners, or even a social occasion, such as a date. Even trickier is learning to read and understand the other person's body language.
So, you're probably asking yourself, "How do I regulate my body language to give a true representation of how I feel when I interact with others?"
Start with the distance between you and the person with whom you're speaking. If you get too close, people feel you're in their face, or too pushy. Too far away, and you could be seen as standoffish.
The angle of your body is a dead giveaway to others. We tend to angle our body towards those people we find friendly or interesting, and angle away from those we feel are cold or unfriendly. Crossing your arms over your chest shows defensiveness. This posture says, "I'm closed off and keeping you out."
Eye Contact is one of the most important ways to communicate with others. Looking them in the eye shows respect and interest. We've all experienced the person who looks constantly at their watch, or seems to be far away and not listening to us. Their body language says, "I have other places to be and other more interesting people to talk to than you." Or the person that you know is not listening to what you're saying, but instead is busy deciding what he/she will say next. Someone whose eyes are downcast, not looking you in the eye could be exhibiting signs of shyness, or it could be deceit. Someone who is lying to you will not look you in the eye.
The head position also says a lot. To show confidence or authority, simply keep your head level. This says, "Take me seriously, my words are important." To show friendliness and interest in what the other person is saying, tilt your head slightly to one side or the other.
Mouth movements are easy clues to what the other person may be feeling. If they purse their lips or twist them, they could be thinking carefully about what you just said, or disagreeing with you, but holding back comment. You can certainly tell when someone is not pleased.
The handshake is extremely important in the communication with others. No one wants to shake a hand like a wet noodle; at the same time, a handshake needn't be a contest of strength. It's a handshake, not arm wrestling. Many people also don't quite know what to do with their hands after the handshake, especially when meeting someone new. They tend to clasp their hands together, nervously, or fiddle with their jewelry.
Since we're constantly sending out these powerful messages, it's clear we should make an effort to learn more about what our bodies say to others. And learning what others are really saying to us is of paramount importance in our day-to-day communications.
So, chin up, shoulders back, keep your distance, head up, eyes sharp, don't be pushy or standoffish, smile and shake that hand. You too can learn to speak fluent body language.
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What does your body language say about you?
When you walk into a room, what do you think people “read” from your body language?
Try this out – the next time you are with people (perhaps you are right now?...), notice their body language, and see what impression they create on you.
Do they appear strong, confident, driven or motivated?
Or, do they seem meek, timid, confused, and/or LOST?
Can you see a parallel with these ideas and the ideas of being attractive vs. unattractive?? If not, let me spell it out for you…
Guys who have strong, confident body language are ATTRACTIVE
Guys who don’t, are UNATTRACTIVE
Go to a mirror and see for yourself – what kind of body language do you have?
Are your shoulders slouched, or are you upright? Do you walk with your head held high, or do you tend to look down?
I remember working with a client of ours a number of months ago. We were in a lounge area, and were enjoying some drinks before going out. I pointed out to him that his body language was pretty closed off – arms and legs crossed – signaling to others that he was not approachable, and was not interested in meeting anyone new.
He agreed to try a little experiment, and change his body language. I told him to uncross his legs, and, more importantly, to uncross his arms. He did, and commented that he felt “weird”.
A few minutes later, a stunning blonde approached us to ask “directions” to a club two blocks away…within minutes she, and her gorgeous Spanish friend, were sitting with us having a blast. Later on that evening, I asked Ms. Stunning Blonde why she asked us for directions. Her answer?
“You guys seemed so open. I also thought your friend was cute, so, you know, what the hell!”
What the hell…
The point of this article is not to convince you that having perfect body language forever ends your challenges with the opposite sex. What it IS intended to convey is the importance of body language and how other people, unconsciously, read it and form impressions about YOU.
If you want more confirmation of this, check out the body language of most of the hottest stars in Hollywood, like Tom Cruise, or Russell Crowe. See how they stand and carry themselves – with power, upright, always looking people directly in the eye.
Now imagine them with a slouch, head down, shifty-eyed….creepy isn’t it??
If you carry yourself with power, other people will assume that you OWN that power internally. If you look them in the eye when you speak, they will assume that you have something of VALUE to say!
Mastering your own body language is critical to your success with women. If you communicate to them that you are insecure, unconfident, and have low self-esteem you will see a LOT of ass….walking away from you.
Clear?
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We also cover the basics of body language and vocal tonality so that you have the MAXIMUM advantage in any/all social settings.
For now, just notice your body language in different situations – standing, seated, at the bar, on the bus etc. Try to find the most powerful posture you can assume. Isn’t it interesting how this subtle change can cause you to instantly feel stronger and more confident?
If you want to attract and date beautiful women, you need the maximum advantage don’t you? Wouldn’t you like your body language to work FOR you rather than AGAINST?
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Do this a few times per day. This will help you understand what you unconsciously broadcast to other people. Also, does your body language change when around attractive women?
It is first critical that you are aware of what your body language says about you, then it is up to you to take the necessary actions to fix it.
Hope that helps guys.
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What do Sean Connery, Brad Pitt, Bruce Willis, and George Clooney all have in common?
Well these guys all demonstrate the signs of the prototypical Alpha Male. Without saying a word, they're able to show confidence and sexuality simply through their body language. This helps them instantly attract women.
Now I know what's probably running through your head...
You might think that women are attracted to these guys because of their fame, looks or money. But you're wrong. I would bet if you took away all of these things, women would STILL be attracted to these actors.
Why's that?
Well it's simple- these guys know how to show alpha male traits around women. Surprisingly enough, you can learn how to do the same!
If you keep on reading, I'll reveal the secrets of how to become an alpha male with your body language. If you incorporate these 6 tips, you'll be able to transform yourself into a seductive guy who can easily attract women.
1- Get rid of 'Beta Male' traits
Before you can become an alpha male, you must ditch all the body language traits which show weakness and inferior status. For instance, you should stop doing these things:
* Putting your hands in your pockets
* Fidgeting with your hands or fingers
* Slumping your shoulders down
* Folding your arms
* Looking uncomfortable
* Being afraid to take up space
If you can detect these mistakes and work hard to correct them, you'll instantly start to show more alpha male traits.
2- Be confident
There is ONE thing about being an alpha male you should always remember...
Women love confidence!
If you display confidence with your body language, you'll easily impress women. In order to show this alpha male behavior, you need to be calm and poised at all times.
Now if you have a problem with your confidence, I recommend you make an effort to fix it. So look within and find out what's causing these unconfident feelings. Then work hard at fixing them.
3- Don't worry be happy
A lot of "Beta Male" characteristics stem from nervousness and tension. If you want to act like an alpha male, you must learn to never worry about the outcome with a female.
Just remember that the dating game is not a life and death situation. So relax and enjoy your interactions with women.
Please understand that the body displays what the mind is thinking. By worrying and being nervous, you'll display inferior body language. Once you remove your anxiety you'll display a more alpha male personality.
4- Be relaxed
The alpha male ALWAYS shows a relaxed pose in every situation. So if you want to display alpha male behavior, you need to learn how to chill around women. Here are a few ways to do this:
* Your eyes concentrated on the person in the conversation
* You never let your eyes dart around the room
* You know how to lean back and look comfortable
* You breath through your stomach instead of your chest
By showing a relaxed pose, you'll easily make women more comfortable around you.
5- You move deliberately
The beta male is always jumpy and ready to please people.
Honestly, one of the core traits of a beta male is somebody who is instantly ready to do favors for people. If somebody needs help, the beta male will instantly come running.
Instead of showing this personality, you need to move slowly and at your own pace. By taking deliberate actions with every step, you'll force people to pay attention to your schedule not theirs.
If you want to attract more women, you must learn how to become an alpha male. By learning how to demonstrate this quality, you'll create a "movie star" quality about yourself. Then women will be pulled towards your magnetic personality.
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(Part 4)
Brief Body Language Alphabet
Body Language of the Head
Eyes
Direct eye contact occurring 60% of the time indicates that the prospect is very interested in what you have to say.
Eye contact occurring 80% of the time tells that the prospect is interested in you sexually.
100% eye contact indicates aggression. Be forewarned of resistance.
Frequent avoidance of eye contact reveals that a prospect may be hiding something. It may also reveal subordination and lack of confidence.
Dilated pupils indicate great interest, either in what you said or in you.
Lock eye contact with a woman's gaze. If she drops it instantly and gazes downward to the left or to the right, it indicates that she is interested in you. If, on the other hand, she merely glances to the left or the right (without first dropping her eyes) in order to avoid your gaze, she simply finds you uninteresting.
Rapid blinking is a warning sign. If it forewarns that your prospect may provide resistance to what you have just said.
The Head
When your prospect's head is tilted towards you, it indicates his interest.
When his head is tilted away at an angle, such that he glances from the corner of his eye, he sends signals of suspicion, mistrust and disbelief. Be forewarned; he doesn't find your idea appealing.
The head, supported on the hand indicates boredom.
Nodding indicates interest and agreement. It is a good sign.
Someone who keeps looking around says "let me go."
Body Language of the Hands
The hand holds telling stories...
When a prospect's hands are open and palms up, he conveys truthfulness and openness.
When a prospect speaks with his hands tucked in the pocket he betrays that something might be hidden. Hidden palms indicate something held back.
Clenched hands indicate tension, discomfort or anger.
The hand, when placed to cover the mouth or the nose or to tug at the ear, reports that a lie may be concealed.
A limp handshake palm up betrays submission. A firm handshake palm down conveys strength and confidence.
A hand gripping the other hand, wrist or elbow attests a desire to quell rising anxiety. Change your tact or risk killing the conversation!
A hand behind the head betrays a need to fend anxiety, danger or discomfort.
Steeped hands bear power and proclaims confidence and business. The hand stroking the chin indicates ongoing evaluation of something just said.
The hands flat on the table indicate readiness to agree.
The hands clenched behind the back project a desire to show control and power.
The foot, when tapping, says "Let me speak" or "I am bored."
Hands on the hips show a defiant, commanding demeanor.
Body Language of the Arms
The arms can communicate aggression. When crossed across the chest, it signifies resistance to the conversation or to the speaker.
Body Language of the Torso
When the prospect leans towards you he sends signals of interest. By leaning away, he announces disinterest or resistance.
A prospect sucking in his belly betrays signals of sexual interest.
Body Language of the Legs
When a prospect 's feet points at you it indicates that he is interested in what you are saying. When the feet are pointed away, he may want to extricate your presence.
A prospect's crossed legs, when standing, betray a feeling of isolation.
While sitting, a prospect's crossed legs report that your idea may not be accepted easily.
A prospect signals that she may like you when she sits with her legs tucked under her haunches.
An insistent tapping foot says "Let me speak" or "I am bored", "What's next"
Tone of Voice and Voice Patterns
Sentences that are slowly paced, even, and terminated with downward inflected tones convey the image of control and power. Authoritative people audibly and punctuate sentences with a period. To convey even more power, they speak at a pace much slower than normal.
In contrast, a tone that increases in speed and rises in pitch indicates escalating nervousness and perhaps that something is hidden. Avoid this at all costs. It betrays a weak position and that someone is lying.
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How to “Listen” with the Eyes
The cardinal rule when reading the body is to look out for a coherent cluster of any of the following:
- Facial expressions
- Gestures, body movements
- Tone of voice/ pace of voice
Taken by themselves, individual expressions or gestures mean nothing. But a group of them, occurring simultaneously, can positively identify significant emotions. Take its analogy in verbal communications where a word conveys nothing; a sentence says something.
In non-verbal communications, a cluster of gestures and expressions which all betray a single disposition strongly indicate the current mood or mindset of your prospect. Before concluding that someone experiences a certain emotion, check the whole range of gestures, expressions and tones of voice. Ensure that the facial expressions, gesture and voice tone all reveal the same message and do not give conflicting signals. Once you discern your prospect’s disposition, you will know exactly how to modify your approach.
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Three Powerful Benefits You Gain From
Body Language Mastery
You quickly identify the hidden emotions of others. Negotiations
become easier when you instantaneously identify areas of
discussion that causes discomfort. Normally, emotions are kept in
check. Disagreement, for instance, can be manifested externally by
continuous rejection of an idea. Body language pinpoints right away
the topic provoking uneasiness and causing the rejection of valid
ideas. Once identified, the area of concern can be subjected to
compromise.
You armor yourself with a perfectly tailored image. By knowing
which body language adds or detracts from your desired image, you
create the perfect "you" in the eyes of others.
You can create an environment of instant rapport between yourself
and your prospects by adopting bodily postures that subtly conveys
openness, trustworthiness, confidence and credibility.
Grasping the fundamentals and the benefits now empowers you
to start using the potent force of body language.
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Body Language vs. Verbal Language
Are you frustrated by lies - white or otherwise? Deliberately misrepresented information, concealed emotions, and hidden motives wreck havoc on daily conversations as well as on critical business negotiations.
Most individuals cannot detect poisoned facts smothered with silken words and laced with an impressive vocal tone. Well-placed words hide duplicity so well that even average individuals get away with it.
Concealing fabrications with words is easy. No doubt, even a child can do it. For the layman, trying to detect lies by analyzing the words that carry them is futile. Judging the validity of a statement based on the sentence structure cannot yield much unless one wields background knowledge of the topic in question.
But while verbal language can hide the truth, body language cannot. Note how our speech is peppered with colorful speech like
- Recoil in anger
- Grit his teeth
- Freeze with terror
- Tremble with rage
- Shudder with fear.
The body conveys how a person feels. Someone doesn't say "I'm shaking in fear". His body does this automatically to convey that he is indeed afraid. The body reveals more than such obvious emotions, however. It does much more.
Body language. It is the final barometer of the truth. It bares and reveals innermost thoughts. Anyone can tell a tall tale in a flat tone and appear credible. The tongue is so glib it can make the most outrageous appear factual.
The body is not as endowed in trickery, however. Your tongue may say one thing, and your body may say the exact opposite. It very rarely lies. Studying the body can identify whether an individual believes in what he utters. It also reveals how he may feel at the moment. In fact, it lays before you an entire range of emotions unconveyed by his faculty of speech.
But understanding body language does more than help identify the current mental state of others. Expert knowledge of this nonverbal form of communication empowers you to project any image desired. This is where its study becomes so invaluable. Body language helps set the
appropriate environment to persuasion.
A master uses body language to subliminally influence his prospects. He creates irresistible messages that subconsciously persuade and control. Through special gestures, he communicates in a very subtle, yet forceful way. By combining verbal persuasion with subtle non-verbal persuasion, compliance becomes all too easy to obtain.
Body language can identify you as calm, confident, and credible. Just as easily, it can reveal you to be shaky, unstable and questionable. The objective is to use body language that identifies you as cooperative, likeable, charming and authoritative.
Related Articles:
+ Understanding Body Language (Part 2)
+ Understanding Body Language (Part 3)
+ Understanding Body Language (Part 4)
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