Not real: Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctively don't trust that. Bad boys "keep it real". Nice guys don't want to upset the apple cart.
Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn't let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can't respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.
Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable = No excitement = No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.
Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
Fixer-Upper: Nice guys don't usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can "create" the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they're not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don't think their genes are good enough, so they won't misbehave.
Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that's scary.
Low self-esteem: We don't feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don't think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you're unfamiliar with.
Sex: Women feel a nice guy won't be good in bed. They like to be manhandled sometimes and think a nice guy won't be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to get the job done, even though that may not always be the case.
Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn't hot? I'm sure there are a few, but they wouldn't be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn't look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, "He's not hot".
Charm: Nice guys don't always know what to say, and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.
Protection: Historically, men have protected women - physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren't so sure.
Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy.
Article Source: Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist, lecturer, author of "Lucia's Lessons of Love" and host of the TV Show "The Art of Love". She's appeared on The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, The KTLA Morning Show and numerous radio shows across the U.S.A., including Playboy Radio. With over 20 years experience on the relationship market, Lucia has dated men of all nationalities in six cities, four countries and two continents. Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate to dispense relationship advice - after all, in almost every dating dilemma she has been there, done that and lived to tell about it. For more information go to: http://www.lessonsoflove.netWhy Women Prefer Bad Boys
Look at pictures of 50 Cent with women...and who do you thinks reality is it? His reality or the girl he's with? She is happy just to be 'near him' and even if you take away the celebrity of men like this, if they still have a strong reality, they will still have hot women in their life.
I've said before that there is still hope for the average American man who really understands natural attraction (without having to be termed as a player or seducer); in fact you can live the lifestyle of your dreams while also giving women what they are looking for. Of course our women bring a lot of great value and excitement to life (why men fall for them in the first place), but I'm looking at the other side because men are feeling a lot of confusion when dealing with independent women.
Women are dying to finally meet a man who can just be someone who does not put up with her drama or puts and keeps her on a pedestal......
Unfortunately because it has become so much a part of who she is, it works out for the both of you to have a short-term relationship. Otherwise her natural independence and diva like behavior will automatically infiltrate your lifestyle and create a shaky and unstable ground because that is where her reality is based off of.
Of course women will say that they want the attention and to be put on a pedestal; this is only because this is her perception of reality and what our society has programmed her to be.
It is denying everything that is universally biological about her, and that is why she cannot explain it. Women have so many more options other than 'just' to be a mother nowadays. That is why things are different from what she says she wants in a man and what she will often accept when she does find a man (no matter his looks) who knows how to trigger even any little part of her biological unconscious behavior.
That is why she will often accept men who are ugly fat and balding only because they did not put up with her high-level crap and instead treat her like a lady where she is second and he is first (because that, I'm sorry but that is the way it's supposed to be (and I have proof) and that is what women want).
The 40 year old virgins that we have are a result or byproduct of everything that is going on (which I go in detail in my book as the 'forced reality'). This is a blatant slap in the face to the continuance and existence of all humankind. It is a very serious problem, even though we may laugh at it at the theater.
Okay the guys of us who of 'got some' may laugh at the theater but we may all actually know some guys who do not know how to be successful if women. This is NOT natural at all, I believe these men DO know how to perpetuate and go through the process of natural attraction in order to procreate; but all of this cultural junk and garbage has gotten in the way.
The pervasive 'forced reality' which is perceptual (yet so real) has covered what women want. Women still want a man to be a man (and this is just as real). Unfortunately the effects of feminism encourage men to be 'sensitive' towards women. This may stop most men from trying to be 'dominant' towards them.
You see all these ads with women biting men or men at their heels or service; this is part of the whole problem; but nothing has changed what women want underneath. In fact they want a man to be a man more than EVER. How do you give women what they want? Read my book 'Mens' Guide to Women'.
How can guys like 50 Cent live in a candy shop and most (American) guys are still so frustrated? Well if you look around, there's a candy shop of women everywhere who are fixing themselves up and waiting for a real man.
Of course they are competing with other women but for what final purpose? To attract a real man. You can't let their now inherent 'drama' throw you off; they're not going to tell you how to act. You have to BE the man who has boundaries.
This works for short terms relationships in what I call the AMP (accelerated mating process). Today's women are very sexually aware and repressed. They don't want to keep attracting jerks. They are wondering why their physical counterparts don't 'get it' and have had to settle for less in many cases even to relieve their sexual repression.
Women want men to be men who define their boundaries respectfully (and at the forefront) and then the woman can choose to be with him or not. Ironically, this is what she is massively attracted to because the paradigm is finally set naturally and because no other (healthy and balanced) men are doing this.Author: Rion Williams offers a free newsletter subscription on how to have 'natural success with women' and dating. You can sign up for the free newsletter just by visiting his website 'http://www.mensguidetowomen.com/E_player.htm' You will receive some free bonuses as well and you can then read about his 352 page unabridged 'Men's Guide to Women' instantly downloadable eBook. It will change the way you think about dating and women forever.
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For bridal shower favors and gifts, this site had the very trendy shower favors, and you can personalized cookies and chocolates to make up your wedding party that unforgettable by who attend your wedding day. Their gifts are - Advice for Bride, Bridal Bingo Games, Trivia Game, BlindWine Party Game, Silver Signature Frame and what I love most is 'Passport to Love' and 'Air Mail Heart Luggage'. It was very lovely, and I will use this gift if my friends are getting wed.
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Read More......Lots of men often ask me if meeting women on the street and in public isn’t gradually becoming obsolete in today’s modern society with the growing popularity of the internet. My answer to that is: Have vehicles become obsolete since the growing popularity of aviation?
The truth is that the internet serves it purpose. Is there really any method to which you can compare which can have you meeting women from as close as the girl next door on your street as far as all four corners of the globe, all with a single click? Probably not.
But just like everything else the internet as a method for meeting women has its advantages and disadvantages. Firstly, there is no comparison to seeing a woman in the flesh who you admire and plotting the course to meeting her and ultimately becoming a part of her life. Of course this too can be done on the internet; but one big difference on the internet, the woman is virtual.
Over the past few months I have taken a look at a few of the sites out there which have crept up to fill this void which introduce men and women to each other and all the ones which I have seen all seem to serve their purpose to some effect. As a matter of fact, I have known people who have met their perfect matches on some of these sites and have even gone on to do the ultimate. But on the other hand I am all to familiar with people who have come away from the internet experience so beaten, broke, frustrated and battered because they have been disappointed, disillusioned and let down, by such things as the photo collectors those e-women who only collect photographs of people they “meet” on the net or those women who supply fake photographs that bear no resemblance to who they actually look like. Then they are those who like Miss Haversham from the old novel “Great Expectations” having been spurned and burned by relationships in the past they set out to trawl the net causing as much pain as possible to every man whom she happens to come across - and the internet is full of these women.In this age of political correctness and women’s liberation these women are more than likely wreaking vengeance on the spineless men of the net as vengeance for the absence of men approaching them off of it.
I have come to verify that experiences on the internet aren’t too different for the women either. However, there’s one caveat for the fairer sex: the men that these ladies hope to and do attract are so desperate for attention and anything else on offer that they are willing to jump through every hoop which the women put in front of them so that they can have the chance to be with these women - and these hoops are in no short supply!!! These men are willing to pander (virtually and really) to these women’s’ every need, and numerous net-women have to practically fight these characters off with a stick.
Some examples of this are like telling them such things as the kind of things they should do in the photographs and the style of photo that they should supply in order to obtain “special consideration.” Even though the ones that they themselves have on show are often generic. As well as cross-examining these men akin to a prosecutor to an accused – all to eventually declare a mistrial.
For this, special consideration, these men are rewarded by the women in due course neither showing up for meetings, nor returning email and calls and similar things, and maybe some verbal abuse, if they are lucky.
Some of the women seem like the perfect women who you really would want to meet and introduce to mother but then you realise that you have been more or less automatically eliminated as soon you read the profile. Now that’s honesty, but what are you then supposed to do run away with your tail between your legs or stick around, call the bluff, face the challenge and try to convince her otherwise? And suppose you do in the most unlikely event convince her, what about the fundamental point that never would have worked in the first place.
Then they are the ones that you never hear from and those are the high-quality ones. I know a single friend of mine whose phone was always ringing off the hook with calls from these women but he meets few of them and has never got past first base as he would wish with any of them. We figured out it was because he was giving these women too much “special consideration” on his web space and profile. After he ceased that desperate practice all this has started to change.
Look, the internet can be and is a fun place to meet women, and it seems like this will remain so for quite some time, however it is helpful not to take the women who you meet on the there too seriously, that is until you get personally to know them. Additionally the odds are and can be - stacked in your favour away from the modem.
One thing that men must remember: is that on the internet it is easy for any man to “approach” any woman and tell her anything. But it takes a special man to actually approach a woman on in person.
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ALWAYS look your best. I know this sounds REALLY obvious but you'd be surprised by how many men don't understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it’s become a bit of a cliché because it’s true -- first impressions really do count.
Here are some figures to consider from my studies:
If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of EVER getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point – she might like women herself etc).
If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad.
It’s the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you’re on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success – no helicopters for you.
Honestly, I can't stress this enough -- always try to look your best.
Tiff’s 5 S’s of first impressions.
Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.
Remember these 5 S’s and always take care of them before you go out.
Why are shoes my number 5 S?.....Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable.
What you wear is very important. I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.
Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men's magazine's and imitate the styles you see there -- most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend the Earth on clothing.
Many guys I help dress better usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in, but nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.
Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too.
Wear a good-quality cologne, but don't spray too much.
One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists -- maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering.
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Sometimes picking up a girl may seem to be embarrassing, difficult and impossible especially if you are doing it for the first time. For most men it is not easy to approach a girl. So is it that hard to pick up a girl?
I think if you are confident, skillful, articulate, have sufficient courage, and are armed with the right techniques then it is not that difficult to approach or pick up a girl.
There are several things you need to take into consideration.
Be positive:
Women do not like men who are pessimists and have a negative approach to life. Actually nobody like people like that. Hence, it is necessary to have a positive attitude and show it when it comes to picking up a girl.
Smile:
"A smile increases your face value", and surprisingly it costs nothing. Therefore, especially while approaching any girl, smile constantly.
Utilize What You Have:
Most men dwell on what they don't possess. They feel that they don't have the charm and seductive attraction some guys have. Sometimes they regret that they don't have a nice body.
But haven't you seen many men who are good looking but don't have any girl. Be confident and try to capitalize on the assets that you have!
Make Her Laugh:
Making your woman laugh will do the trick. Laughter attracts women easily and in less time. If you are successful in making her laugh a lot, you have already won the battle.......
Don't Fear Rejection:
Most men remain unsuccessful in the task of picking up a girl because they fear rejection. The fear of rejection is the main cause behind the failure.
Take every rejection as the next step to success and learn from your mistakes.
Every time you get rejected, you are moving one level up, because once you become comfortable with girls saying no, your fear of rejection will be gone. So instead of getting hurt, be confident after every rejection. Remember, the guys who get rejected the most are the ones who leave with the most numbers!
Be A Good Listener:
It always pays to be a good listener. Observe the things she is saying as well as your surroundings. Stop worrying about what to say next and focus your attention on listening.
During the conversation, always make a direct eye contact with her. Believe me she will give you leads about what she would like to talk about, in essence, telling you want to say next.
Increase A Women's Interest:
If a woman is interested in carrying on a conversation with you or meeting with you, you have actually won half the battle.
You must concentrate on indulging in a conversation she would be interested in. Never fake it. Try to speak about a general topic, a situation or try to listen to her opinions on something really interesting.
Gain Respect:
Remember that a woman would never like to sleep with a man she does not respect. It is necessary to gain respect by showing respect to a woman and making her realize that you genuinely like her company.
Get Her Phone Number:
Getting the phone number or contact details of a girl is important when it comes to picking her up. Now this is a difficult and time-consuming task. You must work hard in order to be successful in your goal.
Use Good Pick Up Lines:
When picking up a girl, you can never go wrong with a great pick up line. The best way to start a conversation with a woman is to say "hi". This is the best opening line.
Now, once she responds, try to proceed further. For example, if you are at a music concert, a theater or a sports arena. You can continue the conversation by saying
- "How do you like the band?"
- "Awesome performance, do you like it?"
- "Great movie, isn't it?"
Now, if a woman is near you, you need to try out the famous 'goodbye introduction'. You can start with "Hi, I am just leaving. But before I do, I would like to introduce myself to the most wonderful woman around". And then see the result.
Perhaps it could become one of the best pick up lines. There are bright chances that she would show some interest (that otherwise was not possible) and you will get introduced to each other. Before leaving you can ask, "Nice talking to you. I'd like to talk to you again, is there a number I can reach you at?"
Believe me guys this always works and brings much better results. There is hardly any girl that would say "no", because you are giving her a chance and just asking her number to reach at. So use this technique to pick up any girl of your choice, and see the result.
Why? Because here her left-brain starts working and she would be under some hypnotic mode where she can't afford to say "no" because that will mean there is not a number that she can be reached at.
Moreover, it also makes you more original than every other idiot that asks for her number directly.
No doubt, the question how to pick up a girl seems to be difficult and it really is. However, you can simplify it by utilizing the powers you have, and following the tips and techniques mentioned above. All the best!Author: Alexander Faust is regular guy who's passion is women. Visit his web site http://www.seduce-a-woman.com and learn how to pick up girls, seduction tips and techniques.
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