Background
Seduction is a subtle tool used with the ultimate goal in mind of attracting and having sex with a chosen partner. Seduction is a form of flirting, but is more ambitious in its means, fulfilling our desire for sex and companionship.
Having sex may be the ultimate goal, but for some, the thrill of seduction lies in the pursuit rather than the actual conquest. The excitement of wanting and chasing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, just knowing that another person’s sexual attention is focused on them gives them that sexual and emotional high.
Generally, people with a great deal of self-confidence enjoy the pursuit more than those who are shy and introverted, and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success. Other factors in achieving success are choosing the right partner to seduce, picking the right time and choosing the appropriate location. These may seem obvious, but they really do matter.
Choosing the right person to seduce is more a matter of instinct than anything else. After all, most of us attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are.
Once you've sought out your potential mate, you have to decide whether the time and situation is right. If the person you desire is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and place being wrong may add to the thrill, i.e. the forbidden fruit. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other person is interested, but not being able to do anything about it, at least at that particular moment, can increase your feelings of arousal and excitement.
From here on out, this will be written from the male perspective, but can be equally applied to the female point of view.
The Approach
How do you know whether she's interested in you in the first place? Her actual body language is a better indicator of how she feels about you than anything she says verbally. For instance, women with an open posture are usually more amenable than those who stand with their arms crossed. Small gestures and tone of voice tell us a lot about how she might perceive us. Eye-contact is also very revealing. With experience, you'll get a 'feel' whether she's interested or not.
Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women’s signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something' and at least have a chance. Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless there are enough signals sent out to assure that the woman is indeed 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth doing.
The Follow-Up
Once you've made contact with her, you'll need to let her know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things. You should probably not blurt out something too obvious. You can, and that may work, but in general, the subtle approach is more likely to succeed.
You then ask her questions and try to access whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. If everything goes along smoothly, there might be a slightly tense, but hopefully, pleasant exchange of ‘self-probing’ back and forth conversation. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking, you have to sustain her interest. Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how attractive she might be. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good (and you haven’t gotten slapped), it's time to move onto the ‘kill’.
13 Things to Know
As a quick summary, here are 13 important ideas that you need to be aware of to get the girl of your dreams. The first 4 are actually things to avoid, while the rest should be followed.
Whether you’re on the prowl or already on a date, if you apply these concepts you will increase your chances of getting women to be more interested in you. Maybe even possibly enough to fall in love and have wonderful sex with you.
NEVER, ever look at another woman when on a date. It’s rude, disrespectful and can hurt her feelings.
NEVER, ever make comments about her weight or any other subject she might feel self-conscious of.
NEVER, ever use the time-of-the-month crack for any reason. There could be many reasons besides her ‘period’ to explain her moody or bitchy behavior.
NEVER, belch or do any other embarrassing bodily functions in front of her. Leave that for the guys’ poker night.
Be honest about you feelings. Don’t string along a woman just for sex if you have no intentions for an emotional commitment. Unless that’s all she wants as well, but you need to make sure what are her intentions beforehand.
Compliment her on her clothes, and how good and sexy she looks.
Always listen to what she has to say.
Pay attention to her and make her feel important and special.
As follow-up, buy her flowers, candy, cards, etc. to make her feel loved and wanted.
Be a gentleman by opening the door, pouring her drinks, etc.
Make an effort to get along with her family and friends, as difficult as that can be sometimes.
Don’t lose contact with you own friends
Treat her exactly how you would like to be treated.
Author: Jeremy Ben-Israel
If you would like more specific information about seduction and pick-up advice, go to www.SoundSeductions.com.
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What does your body language say about you?
When you walk into a room, what do you think people “read” from your body language?
Try this out – the next time you are with people (perhaps you are right now?...), notice their body language, and see what impression they create on you.
Do they appear strong, confident, driven or motivated?
Or, do they seem meek, timid, confused, and/or LOST?
Can you see a parallel with these ideas and the ideas of being attractive vs. unattractive?? If not, let me spell it out for you…
Guys who have strong, confident body language are ATTRACTIVE
Guys who don’t, are UNATTRACTIVE
Go to a mirror and see for yourself – what kind of body language do you have?
Are your shoulders slouched, or are you upright? Do you walk with your head held high, or do you tend to look down?
I remember working with a client of ours a number of months ago. We were in a lounge area, and were enjoying some drinks before going out. I pointed out to him that his body language was pretty closed off – arms and legs crossed – signaling to others that he was not approachable, and was not interested in meeting anyone new.
He agreed to try a little experiment, and change his body language. I told him to uncross his legs, and, more importantly, to uncross his arms. He did, and commented that he felt “weird”.
A few minutes later, a stunning blonde approached us to ask “directions” to a club two blocks away…within minutes she, and her gorgeous Spanish friend, were sitting with us having a blast. Later on that evening, I asked Ms. Stunning Blonde why she asked us for directions. Her answer?
“You guys seemed so open. I also thought your friend was cute, so, you know, what the hell!”
What the hell…
The point of this article is not to convince you that having perfect body language forever ends your challenges with the opposite sex. What it IS intended to convey is the importance of body language and how other people, unconsciously, read it and form impressions about YOU.
If you want more confirmation of this, check out the body language of most of the hottest stars in Hollywood, like Tom Cruise, or Russell Crowe. See how they stand and carry themselves – with power, upright, always looking people directly in the eye.
Now imagine them with a slouch, head down, shifty-eyed….creepy isn’t it??
If you carry yourself with power, other people will assume that you OWN that power internally. If you look them in the eye when you speak, they will assume that you have something of VALUE to say!
Mastering your own body language is critical to your success with women. If you communicate to them that you are insecure, unconfident, and have low self-esteem you will see a LOT of ass….walking away from you.
Clear?
Our program “Natural Attraction” is designed to help you gain mastery of your inner self so that you naturally carry yourself with power and esteem.
We also cover the basics of body language and vocal tonality so that you have the MAXIMUM advantage in any/all social settings.
For now, just notice your body language in different situations – standing, seated, at the bar, on the bus etc. Try to find the most powerful posture you can assume. Isn’t it interesting how this subtle change can cause you to instantly feel stronger and more confident?
If you want to attract and date beautiful women, you need the maximum advantage don’t you? Wouldn’t you like your body language to work FOR you rather than AGAINST?
Check out what else our Natural Attraction product offers you by clicking this link. As you do so, check your posture RIGHT NOW – are you filled with confidence and direction?
Do this a few times per day. This will help you understand what you unconsciously broadcast to other people. Also, does your body language change when around attractive women?
It is first critical that you are aware of what your body language says about you, then it is up to you to take the necessary actions to fix it.
Hope that helps guys.
Author:
Stephen Nash
Cutting Edge Image Consulting
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Stephen Nash of Cutting Edge Image Consulting (CEIC) is author of the book How to Get A Girlfriend: The Seven Essential Skills for Attracting the Woman of Your Dreams and Natural Attraction, 7 CD Audio course on image enhancement and dating for men.
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So you just went through a rough divorce and are back on the single scene. What do you do?
Being in the single pool once again can be a tough scanario for many divorced men. It's unfamiliar territory and it's a little frightening.
In part of 1 this article, I discussed the first 5 steps you must take in order to break through this mindset and start dating, and more importantly ENJOY being single once again.
here are the next 5 steps in the process:
***STEP 6- Have a game plan***
When you actually meet women that you find attractive, what will you do? What will you say and how will you behave? If you are one of the guys who is completely at a loss for words, you may want to invest in yourself by reading a couple of books, attending seminars or workshops.
This requires you to leave your ego at the door, as it's no different than deciding to hire a personal fitness trainer at your gym. If you don't know what you're doing, find guys who are proficient at it, seek their advice, and model what they do.
In my seminars and workshops, I have encountered all sorts of men, single and divorced, from office workers to engineers to doctors. If you leave your ego at the door, you'll start getting the results you want.
Make sure you seek advice that produces results, regardless of whom you go to for it. This leads me to a subsection of step 6.
Avoid poor advice. Please, stay away from the Dr. Phil and dear Abbey dating advice that will make you want to hang yourself. If that type of advice has ever worked for you, then please, by all means go for it. In my observation, guys often experience worse results due to that sort of advice. Enough said on this one.
***STEP 7-Excommunicate the ex***
Never ever complain about your marriage or your ex. I don't care if your ex was a demon who crawled out of the depths of hell to torment you, do not mention her!
Do not talk about her. Please! See a professional therapist of some sort to work out your angry feeling towards her. She is not a conversational topic for the new women you're dating. This is an often repeated costly mistake.
I know you're upset and I know the temptation to badmouth here is great. However, you ought to realize that when you're doing this, your ex-wife is still controlling your life as she is costing you dates, mates, and peace of mind, because you are allowing her to consume your thoughts.
STOP allowing her to run your life.
I feel silly for having to even write this, but I have come across such a plethora of men who seem determined to shoot themselves in the foot by discussing their ex too quickly.
Once you have been dating your new mate for some time, you can perhaps discuss a few things and share some funny battle stories if you really insist on doing so. (I said a few, like twice a year).
Focus on the positive! Do not dwell on the negative.
Most people understand that divorce is a bitter experience and there is no need for you to elaborate on this.
And seriously, how can you enjoy a GREAT time with this new person you're spending time with, when you're recalling bad memories and negative emotions from the last person you were with? Let her go out of your mind.
***STEP 8 *Do not jump into another relationship immediately***
At this point, full-fledged relationships may resonate with you because they present that sense of familiarity. Again, it's like the old guy who wanted to go back to the Shawshank prison because as horrible as the situation was, it made sense. (note: I am not comparing marriage to a prison, even if some of my pals would like to make that claim.)
What I am saying is this: If you were divorced a few months ago after a lengthy marriage, you probably are not ready to jump into another super serious relationships. They say time wounds heals and you need the time to heal.
Go out and date a few different women. Don't compare each woman to your ex. I don't care if your ex-wife could convert water into wine; it's over with. Apparently, it was really crappy wine, because you didn't want to say.
Having fun ought to be part of your focus. Again, It is essential to start surrounding yourself with men who genuinely like to go out and have a good time. If you're hanging out with guys who resemble the disheveled weatherbeaten looking members of Al Bundy's no-mam club who like to bitch and snivel, you're going to be surrounded in that negative energy. Befriend people who are positive.
***STEP 9- Fix up your pad, pal***
Create an environment that is conducive to entertaining female guests. It doesn't matter if you lost the house in the settlement. Whatever! Your current place of residence should be presentable. I could easily write another lengthy article on what would create a home that is female-friendly.
For a start, make sure it's clean, paying extra attention to the bathroom and the kitchen. If your bathroom looks like it's hosting species of organisms not yet recognized by modern science, you're shooting yourself in the foot. Clean up the place even if it takes paying a housekeeper.
***STEP 10 *Be comfortable with the fact that you have kids***
Again, this goes back to attitude! I can't tell you how many guys are so worried about the fact that they have kids.
Listen, will there be some women who won't be interested in a relationship because of your kids? Yes, but there will be MANY who will be fine with it. I know guys who have girlfriend 10 year younger, who happen to have a few kids.
Is that weird? No.
In fact, I am now going to share something that is going to be some of the most invaluable dating advice you'll ever receive in your life:
*It's only weird if you think it's weird*
If you think it's weird, you will have created limiting beliefs that will control your behavior accordingly. If you let go of that belief, you will realize that there is no truth in it. You'll realize it's something that is a generalization that you created in your heard based upon unsound ideas
Destroy the limiting belief and create a new one, a new belief that says it's possible to date attractive and interesting women regardless of if you have kids, and regardless of if you are divorced.
Whether you are divorced or are divorced with kids, there are plenty of single women who will date you. Many guys are already doing this. You can do it as well. It's important to know what attract women and the responsibility falls on you to present your most attractive self.
I strongly recommend you read part 1 of this article. Implement the 10 steps and notice how your dating life and attitude will change.
Author: Cameron Teone is a well known dating coach who teaches dating seminars & “Field-workshops” where he accompanies men to various social venues to demonstrate and provide live feedback on how to Meet, Approach, Attract, & date women. Author of Building Attraction Secrets. http://www.attractwomenanywhere.com/
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What do you do when you just went through a bitter divorce and now you find yourself on the single scene once again??
Where do you start?
How do you meet women again?
Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? Sometimes, it appears that the times have drastically changed since you were last single. How do you begin anew?
In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It's been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign.
It seems as if the times have changed so much. Perhaps they never great at attracting women and they feel like they lucked out with that one girl they married, and now she is gone. Oh, what will they do now??
Now, I have to be honest with you. I have never been divorced. Then again, that may be because I have never been married either. My job is to help guys from all walks of life meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life. My job is to help men attract women. Whether you plan to get married again or not is none of my business.
If you have been out of the scene for a while, you need to become acclimated into the single scene once again.
Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again and start attracting more women.
***STEP 1- Attitude readjustment***
It all starts with your ATTITUDE. This is the first step!
You have to make a decision. I can give you all sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you decide that you want to get this part of your life handled.
So you have a choice: You can either sit there, bitch and complain about how the times have changed, about how it's been so long since you have done the single thing, and what a shame it is, OR you can make a decision NOW to attract a great woman (women) in your life. If you are reading through this article, perhaps you have already made this decision!
This is a time to celebrate your freedom! Chances are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized, sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the movie, you know exactly what I am talking about. "Brooks" from Shawshank wanted to choose staying in a sadistic and brutal prison rather than celebrate a freedom that came with uncertainty.
When you were married, things made sense even if the circumstances were atrocious. Now, things suddenly do not make sense and this is a scary feeling.
You must realize that this is a temporary state, and it will pass. You're not the first man to become divorced, nor are you the last.
In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company.
Adjust your attitude. Start to realize that you have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. Celebrate your new found freedom and the door that has just been opened to new possibilities.
***STEP 2- Burn your old clothes. Time for a makeover***
Look, I know it's possible that you were already a sharp dresser. Anything is possible!! We live in a country that lets Geraldo on TV! In my experience, however, most men have no clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget about it.
In my experience, most married men I meet, have settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants look has become their calling card. If you are back on the single scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your appearance. It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new shoes, and do some grooming.
I understand how basic this sounds but you may be astounded as to how many guys I come across who fail their basic grooming. Just make sure your hair (don't care if it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee, looks like it's been cared for.
Good Breath is on top of this list. The problem is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that you have bad breath. They'll just run away. Our first step is to make certain that we are taking care of the basics.
Change the way you dress, start grooming, and look presentable. Look like you're in demand and that you know it!
***STEP 3- Start Approaching***
Make an effort to approach more women and grow your social circle. You have to start socializing more with women as well as more men. Most married couples hang out with other married couples, talk about babies, fight over bills, and watch reruns of Law & Order.
It's needless to say that regardless of the conversational topics, this particular social circle isn't going to introduce you to as many single women as you'd like to meet. Hence, it'd be very wise to start creating new social circles that include single people, or at the very least, people in relationships who are still in touch with the single world.
You must realize that this takes some effort on your part. You ought to start initiating conversations with more women everywhere you go. Most people immediately think of going to bars and clubs. Depending on your age, taste, likes and dislikes, you may not be a bar/club guy. That's certainly understandable.
You can still make an effort to approach women during your daily activities which could range from supermarket and coffee-shops to various classes, clubs, and the gym.
You also may want to give online personals a try. I'd only advise you to utilize the personals as a supplemental means to meet women, not as your only means to meet new women.
***STEP 4- Start exercising again***
I am being a bit presumptuous here. If you're doing it already, that's fantastic. Most married guys start growing horizontally. Exercise will make you FEEL better physically, emotionally, and mentally. It will also boost your self-confidence which is of the utmost importance! Plus if you join a gym, you will meet new people, females as well as males. (Not to mention that it will improve your physical appearance.)
This is not a ploy to pick up women. You'll feel better because of it!
***STEP 5- Establishing New networks***
Look to create a network of single friends who really enjoy going out and meeting women. Nothing would probably encourage you more to actually enjoy going out and meeting women more than surrounding yourself with a few guys who like to have a good time and socialize.
Hanging with introverts who want to sit home and maybe play a card game or two is not going to help you meet more women. If you are going to hang with guys like that, then make sure you balance it with hanging with a few animals who want to hit the outdoor life.
OK, we are half way there. Part 2 of this article covers the next 5 steps that will enable you to attract desirable women. Please continue to the next section.
Author: Cameron Teone conducts dating workshops and seminars all around the country. He specializes in teaching men how to date and attract desirable women. You can learn more at, http://www.attractwomenanywhere.com/
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Western-themed weddings are getting more and more popular. With invitations in the shape of cowboy boots, cowboy wedding favors, and fun costumers for all, a western wedding offers you the chance to enjoy your special day without having to take it too seriously. Brides might appear in Old West style gowns, with the groom dressed as a cowboy or sheriff.
Many people like to decorate their western style wedding appropriately. This might mean decorating a pickup truck with Just Married signs, instead of a new car, using gingham or calico tablecloths, and serving appetizers on tables made from bales of hay. Raffia wraps can give a rustic air to anything that might need a ribbon ordinarily. Have the bride and bridesmaids carry wildflowers instead of roses. Some people even have the happy couple arrive at the ceremony on horseback!
Catering your western wedding with a family style meal will add to the atmosphere. Encourage the attendees to dress in costume to complete the feeling of getting married in the Old West. You can even really get into the spirit by having a square dance caller and appropriate dancing at the reception. Consider holding the ceremony some place unusual as well. An old adobe church or other interestingly western building can be the finishing detail in your wedding. If that's not possible, be sure to choose the right place to hold the reception!
Consider themed favors too. Popular options include little potted cacti, candles, charms, and soaps shaped like cowboy hats or boots, and shaped containers, like tin pails, fulled with candy or food. Hot sauce with custom labels, miniature horseshoes, and bandannas also all make great favors. Some couples give out engraved belt buckles. There are limitless options for favors when it comes to a western style wedding.
There's no end to the interesting and creative options you can explore with a western style wedding. Enjoy the opportunity to cut loose and express yourself with a unique themed wedding that reflects your personal style and allows everyone to have a lot of fun. It's no wonder that western themed weddings are becoming so popular.
Author: Joe Bella loves themed weddings. Check out his latest western style tips: http://www.westernweddinginfo.com Western Wedding.
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Seduction is a question of subtle strategy with one ultimate goal - to have sex with someone.
The desire for sex is powerful; for some it can be as powerful as the need to eat and breath. Seduction is the road we take to achieve sexual satisfaction.
While the ultimate goal is to have sex, there are lots of smaller goals that need to be reached along the road to the sexual surrender of our chosen partner.
For some, the thrill of seduction lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. For others, the electric thrill comes from knowing that another person's sexual attentions are focused on them. Those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence and their confidence increases the likelihood of success.
Those who are less confident usually find seduction far more difficult. How can you convince a member of the opposite sex to fancy you if you see yourself as being unattractive?
It's important that you choose the right person to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything else but most of us endeavor to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner who we consider to be our equal on the scale of physical appeal.
Once you've sought out your 'prey' you need to decide whether the time and/or situation is right for seduction. If the object of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time/place being wrong may very well add to the thrill. If you're getting the right feedback, the knowledge that the other person is interested but that you can't do anything about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement.
But how do you know that he's interested? The best clues come from reading body language. Non-verbal signals are far better indicators of how a person feels about you than anything they may actually say verbally. Those with an open posture are usually more available than those who stand with their arms crossed. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to seduction. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than is usually acceptable, then the chances are you're on to a winner. Trust your instincts. You'll 'feel' whether he's interested or not. Small gestures and tone of voice tell us a lot about how the other person feels about us.
Flirt. Did I really need to mention that? Flirting is used in two ways. We flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women's signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something'. Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure him that it really is just a game and that you are indeed 'gettable'. Let him know that the chase will most likely be worth it in the end.
Once you've made contact with him, you'll need to let him know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things. This doesn't mean that you should just blurt out "I'm a dominatrix, how d'ya fancy being whipped?" or anything else quite as obvious. You can if you really must, and you never know, it might just work, but in general the subtle approach is more likely to get you what you want. Men generally take the lead in this area, asking questions and trying to access whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around 'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him some. People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way.
Now that you're speaking you'll need to sustain his interest. Two people who've found each other through physical attraction may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction once mouths have been opened. Look for signs of acceptance or rejection. If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you fancy him. There are plenty more available males about just waiting to be seduced.
If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time to move onto the final yielding. One of you must surrender. In all probability it will be you, because even if you initialized the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place. Surrender and enjoy!
Author: Sharon grew up in East London but moved to Norway at the age of 19, returning to England in 1998. She now lives in Cheshire with her partner and two of her three children. Besides writing, she is currently studying Social Science with The Open University, runs a web site where women in the UK can meet other women for platonic friendship (www.friendsyourway.co.uk), potters in her garden, knits and reads everything she comes over.
s.jacobsen@friendsyourway.co.uk
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The overall reason people stay in relationships that just aren't working is because of fear of being alone. Many people are basically considered "walking dead" when it comes to being in a relationship that has no merit of making it. Gabby Love offers many key warning signs that a relationship is on the brink of failure and it's time to move on.
A. Fighting for no reason at all. When you start fighting over petty points that seem to blow out of proportion, i.e. leaving the toilet seat up is a favorite. The man being used to living his whole life on his own all of a sudden is considered inconsiderate and uncaring by the woman if the toilet seat is left up.
B. Showing little or no affection. It's funny how this is such a gray area that can break up a relationship because it's usually determined by the disgruntled party. What is really too much or too little?
C. The dreaded friends of the disgruntled party take center stage. Remember how excited you were when you first met and that special person was considered your true "soul mate" ? Now the meeting of disgruntled friends opinion appears center stage for discussion in your relationship.
D. If there was sexual involvement in the relationship it basically has been stopped or so mundane that you can't wait until you are through. To me this is the real sign it's over. Sex should be considered 90% mental and 10% physical.
E. Conversation in a relationship has become null and void. Remember the long hours on the phone and in person talking about everything? Now you can barely say one word to each other.
F. Finding your focus shifted to others instead of the one you are with. Remember sitting at a table and gazing into each others eyes when you first started dating? Now you look elsewhere instead of with the one you are with.
G. Finding excuses to not be together alone is becoming more evident. One of the favorite cop outs is work. Always working late becomes a popular tool because the other party can say they are too tired to get together.
H. Vacations are spent apart. Let's not forget the movie "How Stella Got Her Groove Back." Vacations apart are meant as a reason to explore new potential recruits. If your mate says they are going to a particular romantic getaway spot by themselves or with friends....boy... the signs are on the wall! It's over!
The above are just a few key points to look out for in a relationship that is going bad. Always remember a healthy relationship should be uplifting and positive.
Author: Gabby Love offers in depth reviews and recommendations concerning relationships,sex,and entertainment. Visit some of the sites reviewed by Gabby Love at http://www.gabbylove.com, http://www.24hrsofdating.com, http://www.2lovesex.com, and http://www.gabbyluv.com.
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